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I need some advice(2 Posts)
Me and my partner just aren’t really getting along. Lockdown is intensifying things, but I’ve realised we’re not really compatible.
We have a 2 year old.
Now my issue comes in that if we decide not to be together anymore, I would want to move back to my hometown. I currently live 200 miles away from my family/parents and close friends.
I moved up here 5 years ago. His parents live here and he grew up around here.
If I was to leave him, I’d move back to my hometown as I don’t really have any ties here, apart from him and my in laws. I do have a couple of friends here, but nothing else. I don’t even have a job as I gave that up when I had my son.
The problem is that he’d be devastated. He is a fantastic dad to our son, despite us not getting on, he does so much for him. They have a lovely relationship and he absolutely adores him. Even me saying I was going to go down to stay with my parents for a week and take DS with us, my partner was really upset, as he said he’d miss him too much.
I know that if I did move 200 miles away, he would hardly ever be able to see his son in that case, let alone bring him up, alongside me.
I know that would ruin him.
I just don’t know what to do. Can anyone help? I feel like I’m trapped 😢
I think you need legal advice . I have a colleague who claims that he succeeded in legal action to prevent his ex wife moving away with his child. I Don't know the detail and it may be B.S. but check the legalities and then tackle the emotional side. Write down the pros and cons. Good Luck
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