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Would you tell his girlfriend?

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Camellashes Mon 25-May-20 14:35:28

Wondering what you would do in this situation.... so basically I had a relationship with a bloke for about 2 years, which ended last year. Since then we chat occasionally on text or whatsapp, always his instigation. For the last week or so he has been in contact, saying he misses me, thinks about me and basically sexting. I responded but not sexually, just replied ancient history but he still continued.

I've since found out that he is seeing someone. Do I tell her what he has been up to, or do I kep quiet and let her find out for herself? I'm sure if he's been texting me there are others.

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KatherineJaneway Mon 25-May-20 14:36:41

You cut all contact with him. He's a scummer.

backseatcookers Mon 25-May-20 14:37:06

Block and delete, move on.

Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese Mon 25-May-20 14:37:12

Personally I would tell him to back off because you're not interested and tell him if he continues you'll will contact her. Then block him.

GinGinHooray Mon 25-May-20 16:11:09

No,don't get involved. Block him and move on.

FizzyGreenWater Mon 25-May-20 17:26:35

I probably couldn’t resist texting back ‘Hi this is <girlfriend name>, fancy seeing you here’ and watch to see how quickly he blocks you in a panic.


satsumasane Mon 25-May-20 17:29:55

Copy the messages and send them her anonymously and do her a favour. Also block him and do not respond at all.

nicelyneurotic Mon 25-May-20 17:33:34

I would appreciate someone telling me if I was the girlfriend. But dont do anything that might put you in danger

Thecruxxofitis Mon 25-May-20 17:36:10

I would tell her. One of my friends was in a similar situation but she was the girlfriend. She only found out what a twat her ex was because the woman he was talking to messaged her. Now she’s free of him thank god

Crystalspider Mon 25-May-20 17:36:34

Would you be happy in showing her the evidence of the messages? otherwise he would probably say your a crazy ex that won'y leave him alone.

Also not not what you mean by seeing her, could be casual/dating relationship or are they def an item.

Mummatobe2020 Mon 25-May-20 17:51:26

If you tell her it will be drama. Just dont replt anymore,block and delete.

Elmer83 Mon 25-May-20 17:58:47

Tell her! Save her the heartache in the long term being with such a dick!

ActuallyItsEugene Mon 25-May-20 18:08:08

Tell her, but only if you have the evidence to back it up - and are willing to share it with her.

Otherwise it leaves plenty of kindling for him to say you're just jealous/crazy/obsessed.. whatever he needs to use to dig himself out of the hole.

crispysausagerolls Mon 25-May-20 18:09:07

I would tell her

SandyY2K Mon 25-May-20 21:03:36

I'd just block him personally.

Brazenhussy0 Mon 25-May-20 23:34:38

Tell her, OP.
Either send her the evidence or ask her if she wants evidence. What she chooses to do is up to her, but at least she'd be informed.

BluebellForest836 Mon 25-May-20 23:41:25

Send her some screen shots of the messages so she knows what a dickhead he is and doesn’t have to waste her time on him.

Dollyrocket Mon 25-May-20 23:46:15

Is want to know the truth I think.

What a scumbag angry

GilbertMarkham Tue 26-May-20 00:13:26

Yes, with evidence.

Don't let him (or her) give you the slightest bit of shit though. Block him before you do it, block.hef if she gets the slightest bit blamey towards you.

NoMoreDickheads Tue 26-May-20 00:20:08

I think I would tell her. This won't be a one-off, he's likely to carry on doing it (and perhaps more) at times throughout their relationship.

LadyGAgain Tue 26-May-20 00:30:42

Keep out and block. She will find out soon enough. Not your party so you don't have to provide the beer.

NoMoreDickheads Tue 26-May-20 00:36:33

Keep out and block. She will find out soon enough.

Women can not find out for years (or ever) that they're in a relationship with a cheat or wannabe cheat.

LadyGAgain Tue 26-May-20 00:46:22

That might be the case @NoMoreDickheads but given the OP history with this guy it's hardly going to be taken seriously even if she does spill.

FlyingTinOfBeans Tue 26-May-20 01:42:52

Personally, I wouldn't want to get involved. I'd just leave it.

Ilovecats14 Tue 26-May-20 01:43:49

I told the gf once thinking I was doing her a favour, all hell broke loose she turned up at my work and all sorts demanding proof as her perfect partner would never text another woman. Never again.

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