I’m posting this on relationships because it’s about my health but based on my abusive marriage.
I was diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue last year and ptsd as a consequence of 12 years of DV. My overall everyday stress levels I can manage and my symptoms have reduced a lot in a background level kind of way. I was able to run and play with dd etc. I only got it to this level by going no-contact with H in December.
My problem is when he contacts me Via solicitors or I have to think about the relationship for solicitors reply etc or I need to make decisions or try and sift through things for my own answers I trigger off my chronic fatigue. I’m not doing it intentionally, I don’t really feel emotional when I think about it but the memories seem to be stored in my body and it just gets triggered.
I don’t want to be like this. A letter 3 days ago from his solicitor which talked about him taking me court over dd (which I had a thread over) has triggered my body to ache so uncontrollably.
Like I said I do manage to keep myself well most of the time but can’t seem to cope with these triggers and respond without my whole body responding. I look after myself, hot baths, journals, watch films, talk etc. I’m waiting on trauma therapy.
Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can stop reacting like this? I’ve got a big fight ahead of me with my divorce so really need to be stronger and make important decisions.
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Past domestic abuse constantly triggering my Chronic Fatigue.
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Fightingback16 · 25/05/2020 12:09
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