I’m feeling conflicted. We’ve been married 36 years, have adult children. I’m nearly 60, working part time. He’s a fit and healthy 80 year old and was visiting his cottage in his home village in Ireland before lockdown started. I’m working so have stayed in our city house in S England. We have been apart about 12 weeks now. He says he wants to stay there through the summer too, obviously sensible from a covid19 point of view. However, for ten years he has been travelling there and back regularly and recently more so. Since July 2019 he’s been with me 1/3 of the time and there 2/3, so it seems he prefers to be in an isolated place by the sea rather than being with me. I could only join him for a few days last summer because of long duration building work. I love him and miss him a lot; he says he misses me but that I will be fine here without him because I’m ‘capable’ (his word). I want to respect his wishes to be where he is, but I also feel abandoned and am thinking I should try to create a life for myself here without him. I am independent and confident and fed up with a part-time marriage, but feel very attached to him still. Has anyone experienced anything similar?
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Husband moved to his cottage abroad - permanently?
Francesca2020 · 24/05/2020 23:51
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