I think I’ve got to the point where I’ve had enough. We’ve been married a long time and have small kids. Our issues started after our eldest was born and his anger issues started to surface. To be fair he’s done a lot of work and tried really hard but it’s all just put me off. I just don’t trust if he’s going to be vicious (verbally) at anytime. I went out for a walk with my eldest today and while walking we were talking about food. He came out with a story about my husband. My kid doesn’t eat pizza. He’s never liked it. It’s the melted cheese. It makes him feel poorly. He doesn’t eat anything at all with melted cheese and we all know this as it’s a “thing” we all comment on with humour. What kid doesn’t like pizza etc Well, we were talking about this and having a bit of a laugh about food stuff and he suddenly said “you were out one day and dad made me eat pizza. I said to him I don’t like it. The cheese makes me not feel well but he said I had to eat it. Then I got poorly and he shouted at me because he said I’d made myself ill deliberately” this incident happened over Christmas so many months ago. I just stopped and hugged him and told him he never has to eat pizza. Ever. If anybody tries to get him to eat something that makes him poorly he just says no and tells me immediately and I’ll sort it out. I also told him it’s not ok that dad shouted at him for that.
Now I just feel awful. I feel devastated that I should have been there to stand up for him. I feel like I can’t leave my kids alone with their dad because I can’t trust what he’s going to say or do. I don’t know if I’m overreacting and we all make parenting mistakes but WTF? Making him eat pizza? It’s not even like making him eat vegetables which are at least healthy and I can kind of understand! Plus he’s got form for wanting his own way and shouting to get it. Like I say, he has been trying hard but this has just put me off. I’ve avoided him today because I’m going to end up saying something, we’re stuck in lockdown and I’m stuck here.
I’d like to know what other people would do in my position. If this is enough reason to end a long marriage or does everybody shout at their kids and I’m just unreasonable to want my kids being 100% respected and talked nicely to when they’re in their own homes?
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needhandhold · 24/05/2020 17:25
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