Me and DP had problems before lockdown but Jesus Christ this has really brought them to the surface. Our relationship started to unravel when DD (2.5) was born and I had mental health problems that he didn't understand or help with. I'm not the world's best mother and made some mistakes (nothing major, I gave her hot milk by accident a couple of times) and he berates me for being a bad mum.
In lockdown we argue daily,sleep in separate beds and try to avoid each other. My day involves me trying to look after DD full time and trying to cope with him until eventually he goes to bed. He is not abusive per se but screams at me regularly, tells me he hates my family and questions it if I leave the house for longer than an hour without him or if I buy new clothes or something I get accused of having an affair. I feel trapped and controlled. I just feel there is so much more to life. I fantasise about leaving all the time. It's even worse at the weekends when he's constantly around and I can't escape him. I don't love him and feel miserable at the thought of being stuck with him. I think he knows and is depressed too. It's certainly no way to live. I have little money ( I work only 3 days per week and pay for my car) and he pays all the bills. Did anyone in a similar situation manage to leave?
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Does anyone else fantasise about leaving husband/partner
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SBLL · 24/05/2020 16:41
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