So me and my child’s father broke up not too long after lockdown started (due to me constantly explaining I needed more attention from him and time, him never helping with our child or doing things as a family and him not helping with day to day chores and expecting me to tidy up after him while working part time and looking after our child the rest of the time) but remained in the same property with our child, while I prepare my new home for me to move into, we’ve been civil but we’ve both made it clear our relationship is over not a break, no grey area we are over.
So I have accepted everyone that’s ever added me to snapchat ( I didn’t ever use it before but now I don’t mind it) and has a few conversations with men on there every couple of days as I really have a full plate atm trying to move, arrange work men for the house, work and be a mum, these conversations were nothing sexual, romantic or inappropriate just general conversation as all of my friends are pre occupied and my ex hasn’t had a genuine conversation with me in months ( I’ve literally craved a conversation with anyone of ANY gender) He’s then gone through my phone got angry, called me every name under the sun and kicked me out (despite reading general messages like ‘I’m just planning to get some DIY done’ when I’ve been asked ‘what do you plan on doing with your day?’) for me I have no problem leaving my phone around A. He isn’t my boyfriend anymore so shouldn’t have any issue and B. There’s nothing in my phone I feel I need to hide, boyfriend or not the conversations were general and wouldn’t lead to anything as I really don’t want a relationship right now and bare in mind since we’ve broken up I can hear him talking to girls when he thinks I’m asleep and he’s even come into the house with females on loud speaker when he’s speaking to them... I’ve not said anything to him about these things as he isn’t my boyfriend so I therefore have no right. Am I cold or missing something? I genuinely don’t feel like I’ve done anything wrong and him then kicking me out into a house that’s inhabitable with a 1 year old is disgusting behaviour, I just don’t get it.
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So confused at ex boyfriends reaction, please answer honestly
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Blanca123 · 24/05/2020 07:56
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