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puzzled198 Thu 21-May-20 21:55:06

Been with my bf for almost a year and everything is going great, although there's one thing that I find really annoying. Can't decide if I'm being irrational or not, but it really bugs me.

He basically messages his ex all the time (pretty much daily), with photos of the dog they share. Every time the dog is doing something cute the camera comes out and straight away a message is sent. Lots of heart emojis accompany the photos.

I haven't said anything as I don't want to come across as paranoid/controlling, and I don't think it should stop it's just the frequency I find annoying and weird. Would this bother you?

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Justyouraveragehuman Thu 21-May-20 22:01:03

Yes this would absolutely bother me, especially the hearts ect. I understand they may have shared the dog and care for it (I LOVE my dogs) however, it’s not a child ffs. There is no need to message and ex daily especially when they have been broken up for over a year

Jellykat Thu 21-May-20 22:06:13

Yes, it would pee me right off.. the odd occasion would be ok, but not almost daily! It kind of means she's in his mind a lot and not just present in the moment, enjoying the time.

Comps83 Thu 21-May-20 22:32:01

Yeah I wouldn't be happy with that

Washyourhandsyoufilthyanimal Thu 21-May-20 22:33:50

No way

noyoucannotcomein Thu 21-May-20 22:38:04

the dog they share

What's involved in this sharing of a dog?

Spillinteas Thu 21-May-20 22:39:36

I’d fuck that right off. He’s still very emotionally attached to her

BumbleBeee69 Thu 21-May-20 22:43:31

NOPE... call up your Ex and show him your new nail varnish.. you know the one he loved when you were together... see how your BF likes that hmm

Elieza Thu 21-May-20 22:45:12

Did she dump him? Does he still love her? Sounds like a lot of contact for someone that’s in the past.

The way to work out if someone’s taking the piss is to see how friendly the ex is towards you.
If she is genuinely just a friend now then she should welcome you with open arms. Ask to meet you. Say she’s glad he’s with you are you are great together etc. I know it will feel weird!
If either of them are not up for you meeting his friends (including her) something’s not right. He should be moving on from her.

katiie3 Thu 21-May-20 22:46:58

How do they share this dog?

Dollyrocket Fri 22-May-20 00:26:34

Even if they share ownership of the dog this is very off and an unacceptable level of contact. He / they still have daily contact hmm

richele4 Fri 22-May-20 00:40:20

erm, no.

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