I’m on the verge of telling husband of 13 years that I think we should separate - hopefully tonight. I know he’s under a lot of financial pressure just now, because he tells me every time he wants to get out of any conversation he doesn’t want to have. It’s CV related, but financial problems are not new - he’s always lived beyond his means, he told me in Feb that he had significant debt but wouldn’t tell me any more about it or talk about money at all, I’ve been financially supporting him for over a year without having agreed to do so (he now owes 10 months of his share of mortgage and bills). Divorce will result in an unfairly reasonable settlement for him, I’m pretty sure, which will hopefully make the prospect more palatable. (Background - he had an affair 3 years ago, I stayed because I thought things would get better, they’ve gone back to how they were, I’m done.)
Am I being unreasonable to tell him I want out now? I’m sure it will be flung back at me how unfair and thoughtless my timing is. I have a very secure professional job, so I’m not feeling financial pressure right now other than what he owes me.
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Seaside1234 · 21/05/2020 18:47
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