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What is acceptable?(2 Posts)
How far can an ex partner go in terms of their need to know what or how their ex is managing things with their toddler? For example, what if the ex partner demands to see where the toddler will be staying for overnight visitation, even though they have seen it all before . Or their dictating the terms of any new relationship their ex may eventually begin, or dictating what can and can't be done in their ex's time with their child.
Not sure where to start with it all to be honest and i thought someone on here with more knowledge and less personal gain from this whole situation would help me to figure it out.
It's all very new and raw and i want to be sure that all aspects of this separation are fair and accomodating but not simply cow towing to their every demand because they don't like the fact things have changed.
Discussing parenting styles etc would be preferable so you’re both working toward the same thing, no to seeing where the DC will be staying overnight, absolutely not to dictating relationship terms or what can be done with the child in ex’s time.
Read through some of the threads here about how some exes behave and you’ll see how little control their former partners have over them. Some people introduce new partners to their children after seeing them for a few months, some parents don’t even know where their children are staying when with the other parent etc. What is legally required and what you/they may want might be miles apart. A lot will also depend on what the relationship has been like (the ex sounds very controlling), personalities of the parents and how old the children are. All of this applies regardless of the genders involved.
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