Hi,
I was just wondering if anyone had any advice. I’m feeling better today but I’ve been very upset this last week and I just feel a bit lost.
I am in my thirties and have had anxiety and ocd all my life pretty much; but the last 12 years I’ve known it & had therapy etc
My anxiety has focussed a lot on my relationship (whether it’s right, do I love DH, am I attracted to him etc)
We have a toddler and we both adore him. Sometimes though I feel like we are just missing that spark. We are best friends, companions, make each other laugh etc but I don’t feel like I wanna rip his clothes off. However, when we do have sex it is good. I just don’t feel like it and push his attention away a lot.
I guess I don’t wanna break up but I feel like am I wasting my life?! I don’t think I am and I did a lot of work in therapy on relationships and love being an ‘action’ not something you need to ‘feel’ constantly.
He is such a nice guy and kind. However sometimes I just feel annoyed by him and put off by little things (farting, smelly breath, sarcasm) even though I know these things are human.
I guess I miss the feeling of just wanting someone so much you feel dopey and silly. I know that isn’t sustainable but I miss it. I know my anxiety makes me question everything and the current lockdown probably not helping.
Can anyone relate?
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Froggles1 · 20/05/2020 09:46
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