Hi everyone
I'm reading through Matthew Hussey's book and I'm struggling with something I've read.
He's advised women to frequent places that men go but only gave a small selection of places as examples: the gym, martial arts and wine/whiskey tasting?
He then said if you don't like any of those, make a ritual of going out with friends once or twice a week to places where men go.
This is all pre- corona
Now, I'm struggling here. At 36, my friends, same age, are no longer interested in going out to places where you need to make an effort and dress up- they've all recently settled down, won't leave their partners for a second, and many have small children. So they either do not see the point as they have hung up the gloves for staying up past 9, are too tired or financially insecure to commit to anything with me, like courses or trying new places to eat that they would rather just invite me to third wheel their family dinners.
Don't get me wrong, I love spending time with their families, but it defeats the object of meeting new people.
The other struggle I have is actually finding places where men go. Not just any man obviously- I'd like to go to places where I don't feel out place and vulnerable and where I think a high value man would frequent.
I again, before corona, would often sit in a coffee shop alone either reading, or working on my laptop. I do go to museums and galleries because I enjoy them and I do go for walks around city parks.Other than that, I love the theatre and cinema. I don't like to go to bars and clubs, as I do not drink nor do I like gyms as my workout is usually pilates, swimming or yoga.
My question is, can anyone suggest other places for me to go to, as he puts it "put myself out there".
Where do high value men go?
I honestly sometimes think that they're probably at home, working on their business or hobby or passion, maybe cooking, maybe tucking into a book, podcast or documentary or spending time with their own close family and friends.
So how do our paths cross then? Must it really only be online dating?
I'd love any suggestions!
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Places that men go- Matthew Hussey dating advice?
LilMissRe · 19/05/2020 14:33
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