So me and girlfriend of 4 years broke up in early February this year and after our final saying our goodbyes phone conversation I decided (and told her at the time) that I wouldn’t be contacting her anymore as it’s something I needed to do to help the healing process.
Last night I was out on my bike doing a bit of daily lockdown exercise and I bumped into her riding towards her as she was coming out of a shop. She said Hello are you ok and at the time I sorta put my head down and mumbled ‘Yep’ before riding on.
However all the way back home it was doing my head in so about an hour later I messaged her saying that I hope she didn’t think I was being rude by not talking to her and I hoped that she was well too.
I got, and still haven’t got no reply, and woke this morning feeling absolutely terrible and like its day one of the breakup all over again and that I’m back at day one of no contact again. I guess seeing her then texting and yes doing that dreaded checking of the phone every 2 minutes last night brought it all back and right now has maybe made me realise that I’m not so far down the line of getting over her as I thought I was.
It was a silly thing to do I know and it feels like that control I gave myself by instigating no contact has been wrestled back by her.
Has anyone done anything similar after using no contact for so long? Any advice on how to kick my ass back into gear?
Sorry for mumbling on guys, this is quite a fresh thing that happened last night.
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Ah man broke no contact last night after nearly 4 month and now I feel terrible
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JamesySpool · 19/05/2020 09:21
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