I'd appreciate an outside perspective as I'll no doubt be told I'm overreacting if I bring it up with DP. Sorry if it's a bit rambling, everything has just kind of been building up inside me.
I'd like to still have a relationship at the end of lockdown, but I don't know. I feel at the end of my tether. I'm bored, I'm lonely, and I'm feeling unappreciated and invisible. All my DP wants to do is play video games and increase his rank to Super Global Wizard King of Bald Eagles or something
This has not really been much of an issue... until lockdown. We used to go places and do things or at least eat out in a weekday and I also needed down time.
But now of course we don't go anywhere or do anything and if we go for a walk or anything then as soon as we're back in the house he will be back on his computer.
I have to nag to have a date night and for us to spend some time together. It's crippling my self esteem to feel this unwanted. And if I say anything and he changes his behaviour then it won't be because he wants to do they things, right?
Today was really the icing on the cake. I had to work a little bit later than usual because we're swamped at the moment and did he take the initiative to cook us dinner? Yes, of course he did. I was offered beans on toast.
Every single day I cook for us. I go shopping, I carry massive, heavy bags home and I make nice dinners and sometimes lunches as he works literally 5 minutes from home. And the one time I can't get round to it, the most amount of effort I am worth is toasting some bread and microwaving some beans. Anything to quickly get back to his game.
He wasn't always like this. We used to live far away from work and took turns cooking and we would clean the house together on the weekend. You would think that now he's not exhausted from a 1.5 hour commute each way he would pull his weight a bit? Oh no.
I just feel very fed up. I feel like I'm at a crossroads, at the risk of sounding dramatic. Help me.
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Do I bring this up? Help me decide please
SparrowInTheHedge · 18/05/2020 23:01
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