This could be a long post so thank you in advance for reading..
I have been with my partner about 16 months, we knew each other for a few years before and had always been really good friends and when we both became single at the same time it just kind of happened naturally and I really thought we were 'meant to be' (🤮 lol)
I fell pregnant 3 months into our relationship and we now have a beautiful 4 month old baby girl.
Not long after I fell pregnant we decided to move in together, we were both back home living with our parents and having a baby on the way it just made sense to get our own place and set up home for our little arrival.
But now we live together, I just can't put up with him, he's just so lazy!
We've had lots of arguments, talks and discussions about house work but it just never sticks - apart from that he agreed to do all washing up, which he does ONCE a day, usually in the morning so everything from the day before is scattered around the sink until he can be bothered to clean up.😷 I used to give in and do it sooner but I'm not doing everything for him anymore!
When we discuss housework he will say he will chip in more, that he'll wash clothes and cook etc. Everytime he will put a load of washing in ONCE and then its forgotten about, I end up rewashing it and emptying the washer then he doesn't even try again.
Another irritating clothing he does, when he comes home at any point he'll go upstairs to get changed into comfy clothes, the clothes he takes off always get laid out on the bed on 'my side' of the bed then when he goes to bed he moves the clothes from the bed to the top of the chest of drawers we have and lays them out on there if they can be reworn or chucked in the corner if dirty. The room is a constant mess! His shoes are always in the middle of the floor, his dressing gown dumped on the floor or on the end of my side of the bed, why is it so hard to put stuff away!?
When he isn't working, he works 8.30-4.30 and is currently working from home, he sits in bed watching films, very rarely sits downstairs with me and even eats up there too!🤮
I feel like we are housemates and I have pulled the short straw and have to share a bed with him!
I hate living with him and dont see anything changing, I hoped it might once our baby came but nope. If anything it's worse because there is more stuff to do around the house and less time to do it.
He does help with the baby a little, he gets up for her first bottle (between half 5 and half 6 - he always got up at 6 for work so he said it wasn't any different for him getting up). And while I'm cooking our tea he takes her for a while and on a weekend when hes not working he will take her so i can get on top of any housework that i haven't managed to do through the week.
I don't know what I really want from posting this, maybe just to let it all out or some advice? Has anyone been with anyone like this? Did anything ever change?
I don't want to be a single parent but I also dont feel like I'm in a relationship either?
I just feel so alone and lockdown is just highlighting things even more!
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I can't live with him!
Whatdoiwantt · 18/05/2020 13:10
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