Okay, so I've been in two minds about posting about this, however yesterday was a bit of a nail in the coffin for me. 🥴 I'm in need of some advice.
I've been dating a guy for a while now. Things got relatively serious pretty quick, we just clicked etc etc, you know the usual cliche. I haven't been in a relationship since my 7 year relationship with my sons father ended back in jan 2018. That relationship was abusive and toxic. So this is huge for me. Being able to trust someone again and allow them into my life.
Now, the problem is not the relationship. My problem is my family. Our relationship is still very much between us and we aren't public with it as of yet. That being said, I told my younger sister and my closest friend from the beginning. More of a safety measure for me as I have been through some terrible things in the past. They keep all of my secrets and vice versa.
It should be an exciting time, and it is don't get me wrong, but when it comes to telling my family in the future I'm filled with dread and anxiety. His job is being a police officer. And I respect that so much. I've never had a bad experience personally with the police, that being said I know others have. I had a feeling my family might have something to say about the police as a whole, more flippant remarks, but yesterday during a conversation on group video chat the police came up (for whatever reason I can't remember) and there was a whole lot of hatred against them. I don't understand it personally, and I felt so awkward.
Probably completely an irrational thought, but I can't help but feel like they will potentially ruin a good situation that I can have and for what? I don't even want to tell them but realistically a) how long can I hide him from that and b) why should I even have to?
He is such a kind person, actually makes me happy but my family can be so damn narrow minded it's actually painful.
I guess my question is what do I do if/when that time comes? My anxiety has always been pretty crap at the best of times. I dunno. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Hope this post makes sense 🥴
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