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I'm so touch-starved!

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jasminepeony · 17/05/2020 18:22

I'm guessing a lot of us are in the same boat. Me and partner don't live together but we're only 10 minutes away from each other. We've both been sensible following lockdown guidelines, only meeting up for walks in the park but keeping our distance. I'm just finding it hard now. I have no idea when I'll be allowed to touch him again or just see him on a regular basis, cuddle up to him on the sofa, kiss and sleep with him.

Sometimes I think "should I just risk it? should I just throw my arms round him and kiss him?" but so far I haven't acted on this. I'm hoping I can resist temptation - it would just easier if I knew when exactly I would be able to touch him again. It's been 8 weeks so far and I'm starting to fear it will be another 8 weeks... I'm forgetting what he smells like.

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itsniceoopnorth · 17/05/2020 18:27

What ? Are you serious ? Honestly if this is serious get a grip .... in more ways than one

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dollface19 · 17/05/2020 18:28

Go on the thread about not seeing partners in relationships... ignore pp

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TopShelf · 17/05/2020 18:44

Who knew we have thread police now.
Ignore the attention seekers, op.

I can understand exactly why you mean, I feel the same way.
Goodness knows when things will be normal,
and we can get back to touching again.
I've found it doesn't bear dwelling on.

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sammylady37 · 17/05/2020 18:52

Ignore the first response, it’s unnecessarily bitchy.

I know exactly what you mean. Human touch is so important. It’s awful to be deprived of it.

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Mascotte · 17/05/2020 18:55

Yes @jasminepeony, pop on to the thread dollface mentioned 😊

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Lsquiggles · 17/05/2020 19:00

Why don't you move in together?

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user1471453601 · 17/05/2020 19:00

I'm not even in a relationship, but I can relate. I was thinking the other day about the babies from the orphanages in the eastern blivk, i

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user1471453601 · 17/05/2020 19:04

To finish (accidentally pressed send) Eastern block who were said to die from lack of touch. I think I understand a tiny bit better. The last person I hugged was a friend at the beginning of March.

I really, really would like a nice safe hug

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KylieKoKo · 17/05/2020 19:18

I have enormous sympathy for those who can't see their partners at this time. I'd hate to be apart from dp. I don't know why the first response was so nasty. Perhaps the poster has forgotten how to be a nice person due to lack of contact with others

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MrMeeseekscando · 17/05/2020 19:19

Im getting increasingly annoyed with people saying "Move in with each other" like it isn't an enormous life commitment.
I'm seeing mine tomorrow. We've discussed it and we won't be observing social distance.
He lives alone and I'm rarely within 2m of the people I live with.
We've had enough of it. I can sit all day less than 2m from someone I work with, but not see him?
Nah. I'm done with it.

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dollface19 · 17/05/2020 19:19

N who ever asking silly questions like why don't u just move in togther ? It's not that easy ! Like distance work children etc 🙄

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sammylady37 · 17/05/2020 19:20

Why don't you move in together

Maybe they’re not at that stage in their relationship and didn’t want to make a hasty decision at the start of lockdown

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YesNoYesMaybe · 17/05/2020 19:20

Can you not live together for a while ?

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dollface19 · 17/05/2020 19:21

@MrMeeseekscando 🙌🏼🙌🏼 I wish I could mine ! We still observe 2m once a week in garden but it's getting harder n harder

We both hav dc so unsure right now! Do U have dc ?

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Mascotte · 17/05/2020 19:24

For many people there's no difference in risk between living together and seeing each other normally.

It's getting to me this "why don't you just move in?" stuff.

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walksen · 17/05/2020 19:31

Well honestly if bubbles of 16 people who dont live together and dont have to socially distance is perfectly safe, what difference does a bubble of 2 make?

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BernardsarenotalwaysSaints · 17/05/2020 19:36

I'm the opposite, I'm touched out. My dc have all become extra cuddly during lockdown, even my 10yo who'd started avoiding a cuddle & kiss at the school gate so this is actually quite nice. It's very draining. I can completely see that having the polar opposite would be awful though jasmine, I really hope you're able to hug your dp very soon FlowersCake

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sociallydistained · 17/05/2020 19:41

Just see each other if you deem the risk small which is probably is? I'm seeing my partner after 8 weeks apart next weekend. Enough is enough now. We both live alone and I'm not working (he is working but in a very solitary role where he doesn't see anyone). It doesn't look on the governments plan that we will be able to touch each other anytime soon.

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CoachBombay · 17/05/2020 20:18

I invited a fwb round the other night because I had also reached my limit with no human touch or contact and social distancing.

The sexual frustration was getting all a bit too much also I won't lie. 😳

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Flumo · 17/05/2020 20:22

Go for it!!!

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fortunacookie · 17/05/2020 21:49

At the end of the day we are all responsible for our own lives and our happiness too...I say go for it ... what harm can it possibly do ??

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Mascotte · 17/05/2020 21:50

@fortunacookie exactly

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derelictwreck · 17/05/2020 22:38

I gave up this week OP and have seen mine properly. Once lockdown was lifted a bit so so many people could go back to work, it was just too hard and seemed unnecessary to keep our distance

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GuiltyBark · 17/05/2020 22:42

Just go and see him.

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jasminepeony · 18/05/2020 09:30

Yeah, it is rather frustrating when people say 'just move in together'.

We've been together 2 years and don't have any children and it still would feel like a huge commitment that shouldn't be taken lightly. I'm fiercely independent and have never lived with a partner before and he is currently living with his best friend of many years so he's not going to just ditch him.

We will probably discuss living together later this year/early next year but right now I appreciate having my space.

My boyfriend is more of a stickler for the rules than myself, so I'm not sure he'd be willing to break them at the moment. I think we'd both feel a bit of shame if we saw each other as normal, knowing that others can't. But I'll speak to him and see what he thinks about risking it.

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