I think I've reached the point where I don't want to be with my husband anymore. We've been at this point several times before and just drifted on either because we couldn't be bothered with the hassle of divorce, or because one of the kids were about to take exams etc.
Lockdown has given me a lot of time to think (plus being stuck here together) and I'm convinced we need to split. He's not even a bad bloke, he doesn't abuse me or sleep with other people. He's a manchild basically, he goes to work but is incapable of doing anything else without some kind of drama, so any jobs around the house tend to be done by me for a quiet life.
I'm not even interested in being with anyone else, I think I just want some peace and to "be me". We married young, I'm now thinking back and wondering if we loved each other even then, or did we just settle?
Just the process of separation seems such a massive undertaking. The house has decades worth of crap to sort through, plus I will have to find a full time job to be able to live a decent life. I've always worked part time and done 100% of the childcare and house admin/jobs etc.
I don't know what to do first. Haven't even told him how I feel, I suspect he would be content to amble on as we are forever. Whenever I see anything on tv with a loving couple on it, it makes me cry because we don't have that. Even just reading MN posts where posters say their DH is fantastic and their soulmate etc moves me to tears. We rarely have sex either.
I just don't know where to go from here. I know the thought of being in this situation til I go to my grave feels like a waste of a life.
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Worth Staying married when love is gone?
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postbreakup · 16/05/2020 18:41
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