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Mum issues - AIBU?

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MumTrouble · 16/05/2020 00:51

I've tried to keep this short as possible as otherwise I'm liable to rant:

I'm 3 weeks away from having my first baby. DM doesn't live in the U.K. and with this virus can't be here for the birth. She's a type 1 diabetic which she doesn't manage and generally has total disregard for her health...for example, she had cancer 5 years ago and moved country after she went into remission. She has not had one check up and has been suffering with stomach pains for weeks, but will do nothing about this.

I find out tonight she's decided to re-start her insulin so she can enjoy a chinese this weekend with a neighbour who has just been released from a hospital that is rife with Covid and is getting over a chest infection. When I tried to explain my concerns, she ignored me and proceeded to actively blank me on the subject until it was changed.

AIBU to be furious that she is putting a fucking chinese/neighbour before her health and her grandchild...I've made it clear she needs to keep as well as possible for when this is over so she can come visit when flights do start again/vice versa.

There's a lot more backstory but to put it simply, I've had to mother my mother my whole life.