I am moving this to relationships on a posters advice I don't think there is really any advice I can be given here but I do need a rant.
My older sister is 27 we get on pretty well but I'm really starting to resent how she treats my parents.
She is a really clever girl, did well in school and although it almost bankrupted my parents she went on to get her masters at Uni funded entirely by them. However since leaving university she has never worked or made any real attempt to gain employment. When pushed on this she blames her mental health and feels she is too educated to do "menial" jobs like the rest of our family (we all work in a local shops and factories but at least we pay our way).
Since leaving uni she has lived back with my mum. and dad in their small council house along with my 2 younger siblings (my 2 younger siblings work and pay rent to my parents, she does not pay anything)
My sister always had trouble maintaining relationships with friends and never really had a boyfriend until she met a guy 2 years ago. He is a complete disaster, doesn't work, also has depression, and smokes weed every day. Before lockdown he has also moved in with my parents.
My sister now has a 3 week old baby boy (a pregnancy I think she planned to get people off her back about gaining employment).
My parents and I have bought everything for this baby and absolutely adore him, but my sister and her boyfriend are doing the bare minimum in regards to their son. My mum gets up with the baby most nights and my sister's boyfriend smokes weed all day and seems out of it so can't be trusted yet my sister posts all these updates on social media as if they are the perfect family.
Yet they don't even cook or clean up after themselves which leads to resentment and arguments within the wider family.
This is not necessarily "my problem" but my parents and siblings are constantly complaining about her to me, and I feel like my mum is trapped because every time she tries to broach the subject of my sister getting a job/flat etc. my sister bursts into tears and the subject is dropped.
I feel bad for my parents they both worked hard all their lives and should be starting to look forward to retirement but I fear they are never going to get rid of my sister or her waster partner. I help out with money as much as i can but i feel like we are all just enabling her. Obviously noone wants to say anything to her at the moment with her being a new mum and so vulnerable.
Has anyone had any experience with this
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I hate the way my sister treats my parents
Eolhc1990 · 15/05/2020 13:23
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