Hi, I have been with my husband for 14 years. Over the past few years he has become a heavy drinker, he drinks most days, the amount he drinks varies but he drinks round 4-5 tins of alcohol a day, sometimes more, last night he drank nearly half a large bottle of gin and 3 cans of lager, so he was very drunk, he called him friend at 12am and went into the back garden, where I told him to come indoors, as he was talking loud and I didn’t want him to wake up our children and neighbours, he didn’t like the fact I said this but I didn’t back down until he came indoors. He finally fell asleep on the sofa at 1am and is currently in bed nursing his hang over. This doesn’t happen all the time but it’s happening more often than I am willing to put up with. He often smells of alcohol in bed and when he’s reading our son a story in bed, which I raised concerns about. I don’t like the fact he’s drinking as often as he is around the children and also I don’t want to be married to a drunk and also it can’t be any good for his health. I’ve told him previously in the past that I’m finding it a concern and he’s cut back, only to go back to his original habits a week or two later. What is my next step, is it a case of saying give up, or I’m leaving? I am not prepared to spend the rest of my life with him, if he continues this lifestyle and although I have nothing (financially) and no longer have a job, I am not prepared to carry on putting up with ‘his ways’. We have three children and a lovely house but that is not enough to keep me in this situation.
Any advice from those who have gone through similar experiences?
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ZimbaZomba1345 · 15/05/2020 11:37
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