I’m considering breaking up with my boyfriend of almost 2 years. We just got engaged in December, but for some reason I’m just not into the relationship anymore.
I still love him, but something just feels off, like I’m not fulfilled the way I want to be.
He doesn’t do anything too wrong that warrants this. I mean, I know from the way he looks at me that he loves me and he’s happy with me.
I don’t question that for a minute.
But there’s a lot of things that have made me feel the way I’m feeling.
For one, I’m catching myself missing being single (I’m only 24 now mind you, he’s 25). For almost 5 years before I started dating him I was single, but I was insanely depressed so I never got to get out and go do what I wanted to do. I’m not so depressed now, I have a decent paying job, I’m more confident in myself, etc.
Also, I just feel like although my boyfriend loves me, I feel like he’s just staying with me out of convenience or he’s mistaking his love for me as something more than it is.
We only have sex maybe once a week or once every other week. He doesn’t cuddle with me or show me a lot of affection. Since we started dating we don’t even share the same blanket.
I’m the only one actually making money. He doesn’t ask me for much but I’m always giving to him, and it’s never really reciprocated. And not to mention, I live at my parents house because I just got done with college, he moved in, and he just doesn’t do anything to contribute.
I’ve felt this way on and off for the past year. When I felt this way last year I told him I didn’t want to be with him anymore, he left, and the minute he left it didn’t feel right. I felt like I should’ve stayed with him so we got back together the next day.
We had 2 dogs together, but sadly one of our dogs just died of kidney failure. Neither of us are taking it well, which is making how I’m feeling worse.
Not only that, but I’m feeling how I’m feeling and when he looks at me or talks to me he’s smiling and seems happy for the most part so it makes how I’m feeling insanely guilty.
I don’t believe he loves me like he thinks he does. He might not be an affectionate guy, but I want an affectionate guy. He doesn’t show it at all. The most he does is stick his face in my face and while some might think this is cute, it’s actually annoying. I don’t really like anyone in my face period. I’ve asked him not to and to do other things but he won’t, he just persistently puts his face in mine.
I feel like I’m being picky but I don’t know.
I don’t have a single person to talk to about this. I try talking to my mom and she tells me to just stop thinking that way and stay with him. But it’s consuming my every thought now.
I’m sorry if this is confusing.
What should I do? Should I stay with him? Am I being paranoid or overthinking? Please help.
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Should I break up with my boyfriend?
Wilsonskye14 · 14/05/2020 17:01
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