My ex and I have a messy past. Lots of cheating, gas lighting and financial abuse. Lots of mind games since we split. We have an 18 month old DD.
I was very honest with the mediator. She asked why we split and I explained he was having an emotional affair after our baby was born and had a porn addiction, which she seemed very concerned about because I dont think she understands it. It doesn't concern me regarding our child as it's not something he'd expose her to in any way.
The mediator asked if I had any concerns regarding our childs safety. I said no but also mentioned that he had forced a bottle in her mouth and choked her when she was a newborn as he wasn't coping (he felt very guilty after and she was fine). He would also sometime repeatedly tell our baby to shut up when he couldn't cope. It only happened a few times but it made my stomach turn and my heart hurt when he did it. I think he's a great dad on the whole and now she's older, I'm hoping he copes better when she's having a tantrum or is hard to handle.
Mediation has been refused but no reasons have been given.
I'm now worried that there's going to be social services involved, and maybe rightly so, but I do feel he is a good dad and just wanted to get our issues resolved for our daughter. But my honesty hasn't helped the situation.
What happens? Will social services just turn up at my door? Will I get a letter? It's the not knowing that's worrying me. Has anyone been refused for other reasons?
It's also worth mentioning that we're both on the spectrum, but both high functioning. I told the mediator that, too.
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Has anyone been refused mediation by the mediator? Will social services be involved?
RLEOM · 13/05/2020 13:46
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