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How to break up during lockdown

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pugtato Wed 13-May-20 13:10:30


A couple of months before lockdown I started seeing a new guy. He's kind and thoughtful and I enjoyed spending time with him. However now with everything going on I'm not sure I want to continue the relationship. It's not really anything to do with him, although there are a couple of issues. He's not very active and I am (not a massive issue) but he also told me he loved me about two months in which I thought was a bit quick and it has been worrying me slightly as it takes me a lot longer to get to know someone enough to tell them the same.

Anyway, with everything going on we are not seeing each other at the moment. I live on my own and with the stress of everything going on, along with how it's affected my mental health has meant I'm finding it harder to keep up with texting back and forth, although I have been keeping in touch. I've also done a lot of soul searching and I'm thinking now that when this all ends I'd like to move back home nearer my family who are 400 miles away. I'm very isolated where I live now and initially moved for a relationship which ended about 2 years ago. Strangely enough, despite the pandemic, a couple of jobs in my field have come up near my hometown and I feel like I would regret not at least trying to go for it.

Because of all this I know I need to let him know and end it. The only thing is I don't know how. I obviously can't do it in person and we don't call or facetime as he's really not a fan. I feel terrible doing it by text, even though that's his preferred method of communication, because it feels quite impersonal and harsh. I also think this will come out of the blue for him, which I also feel bad about. I don't know if I'm overthinking it but it's causing me quite a nit of anxiety. I don't mind being truthful with him, I'm just struggling with the method!

What would you suggest? Has anyone else gone through similar in this time? Thank you smile

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pilates Wed 13-May-20 13:16:36

I would do it as soon as possible by phone, it would be wrong by text.

edwinbear Wed 13-May-20 14:41:49

I think text is fine if that's your main method of communication. Something along the lines of 'I've really enjoyed the time we've spent together, it's a shame circumstances have meant we couldn't have had more. However, after so much time to reflect, I've come to believe we have different needs and priorities in life, so think it's best we leave things here. I wish you all the best.'

SunshineDays2019 Wed 13-May-20 16:06:48

Could you not meet him e.g. at a park and tell him in person?

TheMotherofAllDilemmas Wed 13-May-20 16:19:06

Do people do not use phones these days? Just talk about it on the phone.

Marianneconnell Wed 13-May-20 16:24:26

Not everyone likes to talk on the phone. I hate talking on the phone. I think it's fine to text.

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