I'm not sure if anyone can actually change my mind on this because I feel quite strongly of my position, but I do feel like I need other opinions/perspectives.
Bit of background (you can skip to next paragraph if you want! I don't want to ramble!): I had numerous 1–3 year relationships in my teens/20s and after that time they always petered out as I slowly fell out of love with the person. In my very late 20s I met now-husband and it seemed different. After 4 years things were still good, so we got married, settled down, had kids. Now I'm nearly 40 and I feel like I've reached that point again. So it did last longer this time, just not forever! I'm not sure I'm built for loooong-term relationships, and that's actually ok with me.
So now we have 2 kids, aged 4 and 2. I don't really have ANY romantic or sexual feelings towards my husband anymore, but we are good friends still. We don't fight or anything like that. If we didn't have kids, I'm quite sure I'd break up with him though. Just because a good friendship is not actually a good husband-wife relationship, is it? And I kind of like the idea of being on my own. But anyway, we DO have kids, and it would kill either one of us to not be able to see them every day. And obviously it would be much better for them, us all staying together.
We bicker sometimes but never anything major. If we were to ever divorce, I don't think I'd try for another long-term relationship again, since I'm sure it would end up the same way. So if I'm gonna stay in a "companionship" relationship, might as well be with my husband since we're pretty darn good companions, and we have kids together!
So, does anyone think I'm crazy just to think screw it, I'll just stick with this? I'm never going to be one of those people who remain madly in love with my partner and has a wild sex life into our 60s or whatever, but I will keep my family together, I will have a partner who I can talk to and share lots of similar interests with, etc. Our life philosophies and all of that are perfectly aligned.
Any thoughts?
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Can staying together for the kids work?
WireBab44 · 11/05/2020 23:36
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