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laaalaala Mon 11-May-20 20:13:21

Hi all just hoping for a friendly pick me up (hopefully) split with my boyfriend during lockdown we have been together just over a year and things haven't been great for a while so I could see it coming but obviously it's still hard. Hoping to hear some funny why did I stay with him or how your life improved after a breakup... basically just wanting some words of wisdom to pick me up x

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Sugartitss Mon 11-May-20 20:18:29

left an abusive bastard that bet me to a pulp for years, met my lovely boyfriend and we are getting married smile

laaalaala Mon 11-May-20 20:21:32

@Sugartitss amazing!! When is the wedding 😁 exactly what I wanted to hear something positive

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Justyouraveragehuman Mon 11-May-20 20:32:46

OP you will see light at the end of the tunnel. I split from my emotionally abusive ex in November 2019 (I actually posted on here) and fast forward to now, WOW! I feel like such a powerful woman. I am the happiest I have been and I’m making positive moves in my life I thought I’d never make. I now know exactly what I want out of life and exactly what I want in a man. Good luck with everything, I am sure you’ll be just fine flowers

Dazedandconfusedpart2 Mon 11-May-20 20:44:06

Left an emotionally abusive cheat who got another woman pregnant (and came to me for emotional support for weeks after I found out!). He also hit me a few times and was constantly verging on physical abuse due to immense anger problems.
Now (or was!) seeing a lovely man who couldn't be nicer. Obviously lockdown happened and there isn't much to talk about when we're both stuck home day after day so conversation has dried up a bit BUT even if nothing comes of it, my god am I glad to have that previous relationship in my past. Nice new man has shown me I really didn't deserve how I was treated and gives me a bit of hope that they're not all horrendous people who will hurt you in ways you'd have struggled to imagine.

Lolliloo1234 Mon 11-May-20 20:56:36

Met and married an absolutely vile man, physically, sexually, emotionally and financially abusive. He really is the absolute devil - left in secret and slapped him with a restraining order 😂😂 divorced him and have now met the absolute love of my life.

My DP really is an angel. I would never have met him had I not been married so I would do it all again to be right here, with him. Getting married in January and trying for a baby. Life is an absolute joy.

You are heading toward much brighter days!!!

Aclh13 Tue 12-May-20 03:54:07

hello, I am tempted to end with my boyfriend, I have been with him almost five years, been wanting to end on and off since day one, I feel trapped, trust me you are lucky you are free x

Blurpblorp Tue 12-May-20 04:53:21

OP I split from my exH (narcissist, serial adulterer) nearly 3 years ago. Was broken at the time but now I'm SO GRATEFUL I didn't get what I thought I wanted. Breathe... This feeling will loosen and tomorrow is a new day flowers

searchaway Tue 12-May-20 06:49:26

Things will get better. Hang in there

Treacletoots Tue 12-May-20 07:17:09

I left my selfish, lazy, narc exH almost 10 years ago (that's gone quick!) At the time we'd lost a ton of money on the house we bought with all my deposit money (my lovely terraced house wasn't good enough for him) and if we divorced I would have potentially lost all the money I'd worked hard to put in. thank you housing crash of 2007/8.

After 4 years I couldn't take it any more and kicked him out. At first he refused to leave, then when he did go, he kept coming back every few days, talking about how upset, sad this was making him, not once asking me how I was. I knew then that I was completely validated in ending the relationship.

Eventually he stopped coming round, I managed to get a new job and was able to remortgage the house in my name and started divorce proceedings.

Don't look back. It's OK to be sad for what could have been but keep moving forwards for both you and your DC.

If it helps, I had a good 2 years being single and thoroughly enjoying it, and then met my DH who is entirely perfect in every way and we got married and have our DD. Things work out in the end OP, if you let them. Set your goal initially to being OK with being single. With accepting you are enough. When you're happy with being single, then you're ready to date again. Don't rush into another relationship until you love yourself and are much pickier. Trust me.

Pinkchicken85 Tue 12-May-20 07:32:02

The posts on here are mostly ladies who rightly left scoundrels but relationships can end for more subtle reasons too. I left a lovely Ex of nearly five years because I simply fell out of love, fast forwards 6 years and I now I’m happily married, with a DS living in the Mediterranean. Being with the wrong person is so limiting OP, enjoy being single wink

laaalaala Tue 12-May-20 11:30:45

Thankyou for all your replies! Today is another day so hopefully I can manage to get myself out of bed today 🤞🏼 we split due to numerous reasons he was lying a lot and then because of that I lost the trust and just couldn't look at him the same anymore x

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