Me and my OH have been together for 8years with a blip in the beginning and a few years ago. We got together at 17 and after a year I found messages of him trying to meet up with another girl on instagram this was after he stayed at his friends house, I broke it off with him. Then two years ago we split again as he was messaging another girl on Instagram. I broke it off that time and we didn’t speak for a few months. After a few months we became friends again and then gradually we got back together and he had said he was stupid etc it wouldn’t happen again. Then two nights ago I found out he had messaged two girls two years ago after we got back together, asking 1 if she was single and another flirting. This was a few months before he proposed to me. Now I know it was two years ago but I’ve just found out and I can’t stop thinking that he’s probably done this to me more. He’s apologised and can’t say why he did it etc said he was going out with his mates a lot more who are like that. I don’t know what to do. We’ve been saving to buy our own house and we’re planning to get married next year and hopefully start a family later on. I’m finding it difficult to think about those things and have said the plans are off until I can trust him. I don’t think I can this time. I’m 25 and want to start making big life decisions but do I do them on my own?
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