I've continued to work throughout the lockdown - was sent home and set up a home office. I'm working hard long hours to try to keep things going whilst others haven't been able to work. Husband has been at home, unable to work. He was able to go back last week but felt ill so they told him to get tested and stay at home. I've tried to be constructive and come up with a list of jobs for both of us to do when the lockdown started. Basically, he has barely moved off the sofa the entire time and I'm ready to explode. I've been working and go to make myself a cuppa and find Im having to clean the kitchen when the kettle is boiling. As soon as I finish work, sometimes after a 10-11 hour day, Im cleaning. He does cook and I deliberately don't start the cooking process because I think I do enough (and Im always the one who has to clean the kitchen, even if I do the cooking) - but I know he only cooks because he has to eat. Yesterday, I cleaned the house from top to bottom, did lots out in the garden, cleaned gutters and a couple of other jobs that for the last 2 days he said he would do. He cooked, fair enough but I cleaned it up (the day before I did all the cooking and cleaned it up). He goes out for a run, comes home, has a shower and is then sprawled on the sofa the entire day. This morning, I get a comment about not taking the dog out yesterday when I said I would! I calmly told him that I forgot and I had been busy all day, it wasn't like I had been lying on the sofa all day. So now he's gone off for a run in a huff. I don't like the person he has become since he took up running, he makes comments about peoples size and their speed - I think its just great they are out there giving it a go. Now he has started commenting that I need to lose a but of weight (I know I do) but should be more active and working to get fitter. I've said to him when do I find the time and he said that I can make the time. I've just wanted to explode at home that if he wasn't such a lazy arse I could have a bit more 'me' time. When he said he is now fit and active, I've told him that he isn't - he can run for 15 miles but then spend the entire day on the sofa asleep isn't my definition of fit and active. I need to hold it together because we can't get away from each other but I can't help thinking about is this how our retirement is going to be? I know he is lazy at weekends but only seen it for a couple of days and put it down to work but I've been really shocked that he's been able to literally lie on the sofa for weeks. I can't do it, I'll sit for a little while but then I need to be up doing something.
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@ searchaway
I'm confused as to why on earth the OP would want to split the chores 50/50 when she is working full time and he's sat on his arse all day doing fuck all ?? 
Surely HE should be doing 90% of household and garden chores ??
I say 90% just because the OP might like to get out of the house at times, but if not, then he should be doing 100% of all chores !
If it was HIM who was putting in 10-11 hour days, would anyone say he also needed to be doing 50% of the chores ?? Of course not !
OP, I think you and your 'D'H need to have a long talk about how you both feel and what would make things better for you both. But you need to be very clear about what you are annoyed about and what you expect him to do going forward. i.e he's not working and so must do all the household chores and cooking (including cleaning up afterward) (which will NOT take him 10-11 hours a day )
Good luck.
What exactly is the point of him?
He's a lazy loser.
Why are you wasting time with him?
Don't have children with him.
Get rid of him.
You deserve better.
Why wouldn't you want more?
@LannieDuck
Why on earth should the OP '' But maybe also lower your standards? ''
Is the OP's husband sub normal in some way ? Is he not capable physically ?
It's that kind of crap that excuses men from doing housework properly FFS !!
If he's capable of holding a conversation, holding down a paid job, and is not a bloody quadriplegic, then he can do it as well as any woman 
@ LannieDuck
Yup, you said the husband should be doing all the housework, then said ''but also maybe lower your standards'' !
I'm sure the OP and her husband are both aware of what housework needs done, the OP states that he leaves mess at his arse everywhere he goes, dishes, crumbs, washing up etc.........should the OP ignore this ??
The OP's husband is not (as far as we know), an imbecile who thinks magic fairies come at night and load the dishwasher, clear dirty plates from the living room, clean the bathroom, put on the washing machine or vacum and dust. Therefore he is definitely lazy, not blind !
Ergo, the OP has described the mess left in his wake, and his complete lack of movement from the sofa after his run, so I have concluded from this that yes, their house DOES need cleaned !
What conclusion did you arrive at ? That the OP is exaggerating ?
That a house with mess and dirty dishes everywhere is not in need of cleaning ?
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I've told him, there's no trying about it, I don't have to 'try' - either he does it or he doesn't but if he doesn't, that I'm at the end of my tether and tired of having this conversation with him and he can find somewhere else to live because I'm tired of being taken advantage of
Go Cookie! 
Stick to your guns if he 'relapses'.....don't let him play this game forever.
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