I've continued to work throughout the lockdown - was sent home and set up a home office. I'm working hard long hours to try to keep things going whilst others haven't been able to work. Husband has been at home, unable to work. He was able to go back last week but felt ill so they told him to get tested and stay at home. I've tried to be constructive and come up with a list of jobs for both of us to do when the lockdown started. Basically, he has barely moved off the sofa the entire time and I'm ready to explode. I've been working and go to make myself a cuppa and find Im having to clean the kitchen when the kettle is boiling. As soon as I finish work, sometimes after a 10-11 hour day, Im cleaning. He does cook and I deliberately don't start the cooking process because I think I do enough (and Im always the one who has to clean the kitchen, even if I do the cooking) - but I know he only cooks because he has to eat. Yesterday, I cleaned the house from top to bottom, did lots out in the garden, cleaned gutters and a couple of other jobs that for the last 2 days he said he would do. He cooked, fair enough but I cleaned it up (the day before I did all the cooking and cleaned it up). He goes out for a run, comes home, has a shower and is then sprawled on the sofa the entire day. This morning, I get a comment about not taking the dog out yesterday when I said I would! I calmly told him that I forgot and I had been busy all day, it wasn't like I had been lying on the sofa all day. So now he's gone off for a run in a huff. I don't like the person he has become since he took up running, he makes comments about peoples size and their speed - I think its just great they are out there giving it a go. Now he has started commenting that I need to lose a but of weight (I know I do) but should be more active and working to get fitter. I've said to him when do I find the time and he said that I can make the time. I've just wanted to explode at home that if he wasn't such a lazy arse I could have a bit more 'me' time. When he said he is now fit and active, I've told him that he isn't - he can run for 15 miles but then spend the entire day on the sofa asleep isn't my definition of fit and active. I need to hold it together because we can't get away from each other but I can't help thinking about is this how our retirement is going to be? I know he is lazy at weekends but only seen it for a couple of days and put it down to work but I've been really shocked that he's been able to literally lie on the sofa for weeks. I can't do it, I'll sit for a little while but then I need to be up doing something.
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