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Butteredtoastandcoffee Sat 09-May-20 08:24:44

Changed username for this.

I think DH might be blocking and unblocking me on WhatsApp.

He works away midweek. I noticed randomly a while ago that his profile pic on WhatsApp had changed to nothing. Before it had been a pic of us all.

Then noticed on sons phone a while later (he was showing me messages) it was a pic of the kids.

I didn't think much of it. Then I was whatsapping someone and his pic was of the kids on mine too. Basically thought I must have been mistaken and promptly forgot all about it. We very rarely WhatsApp each other, we mainly use iMessage but he uses WhatsApp with the kids and other family/friends. I use it for the kids and workmates mainly.

Fast forward to last night. Was on WhatsApp and saw the picture of the kids. He is quite high up on my chats list.

For some reason I screenshot it. Then this morning, went to WhatsApp my sister and the pic is back to nothing again. It's of the kids on my sons!

I WhatsApped a message and it's just got one tick and has for ages. But on a group kids chat we are on it went to two straight away for him when I messaged this morning.

This is just weird!

It can't be that he wants to hide his last online as he has that set so nobody sees that anyway. He wouldn't need to block me for that.

Any ideas as to why?

I know the right thing to do is ask. I don't really want to do that right now.

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itswonkylampshade Sat 09-May-20 08:27:19

Sounds like he might have two accounts and is swapping back and forth between them? I’d be suspicious!

ItStartedWithAKiss241 Sat 09-May-20 08:30:02

It does sound as if he is blocking you. Have you noticed any pattern to it? X

DCITennison Sat 09-May-20 08:31:52

Disabling ‘last seen’ doesn’t stop you showing as online when you’re currently in the app, so if he doesn’t want to be seen being active on WhatsApp could be that?

(Not going to advise on what you should think, or do as that’s not what you’ve asked and I’m sure you’ll get lots of that anyway!)

Hope it all turns out ok.

Mum00122 Sat 09-May-20 08:32:54

Yes that is definitely the pattern of blocking. You can block individuals but if you're in a group with them they can't be blocked. I would say defo blocking and unblocking.

Lucked Sat 09-May-20 08:35:38

Have you tried blocking your child and seeing what happens to your picture on their phone?

BingPot720 Sat 09-May-20 08:36:01

Well yes it looks like he is but why would he do that? I could see the sense in it if he was away with someone else and didn't want your messages popping up, but then surely he'd also block the family chat, in case you messaged on that? And if you mainly use iMessage why would he not block you there? Can you even do that? I don't know, I don't use iPhones...

I don't know OP, I'd be suspicious in your shoes too but I'd hold fire for now.

Onone Sat 09-May-20 08:37:40

You can only have one whats app account to one phone number,yes it does seem like he’s blocking you

Chocolate123 Sat 09-May-20 08:38:35

Sounds suspicious alright. The no pic and one tick looks like a blocked person but then would you boy be blocked on the family group chat?

Butteredtoastandcoffee Sat 09-May-20 08:40:28

Oh of course. He may not want me to see he is online if I go in to WhatsApp. I thought it couldn't be that as there is no last seen for any of us.

I'm definitely blocked. He's read the group kids chat and my message straight to him remains on one tick. He's messaged me via iMessage this morning.

Not noticed a pattern but I'm going to be looking now. Hopefully for reassurance but I just can't think why he would want to do this.

The thing about two accounts confuses me. Is that even possible? His profile on my sons account was the same last night and this morning - no change. Wouldn't having two accounts affect his too and not just mine?

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MrJollyLivesNextDoor Sat 09-May-20 08:41:09

That message you sent that only went to one grey tick is a clear indicator of blocking - especially if the message on the group chat went to 2 blue ticks

The reason he is blocking you is that he does not want you to see that he is online (which you will still be able to do even though he has disabled last seen).

You are right to be very very suspicious. And you know it.

AvoidingRealHumans Sat 09-May-20 08:43:11

Is there anything else suspicious about his behaviour?
It does look like he is blocking and unblocking you, where is he when this happens?
You could ask him outright but it would alert him that you suspect something is up and he could be more careful after that.
You could wait and see if anything else he does is dodgy which would give you answers on what he is doing

Butteredtoastandcoffee Sat 09-May-20 08:43:59

I'm definitely holding fire. No way am I asking him.

Will keep checking to see if there is a pattern to any of this.

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Butteredtoastandcoffee Sat 09-May-20 08:46:01

Slightly concerned he may twig that I'm onto something when he finally unblocks me ad gets my WhatsApp as I very rarely use that to message him.

I wanted to see what happened to the ticks for more answers really. Now I know I am definitely being blocked for some reason.

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Friendsofmine Sat 09-May-20 08:46:13

I have two accounts on one phone linked to two different phone numbers. So if I have two separate icons on the phone for each account. One is work and one is personal so that I can use what's app for video calls on work number. I have a work appropriate non descript photo for that account, so there is no reason to be chopping and changing photos.

Worst case I think he has changed it to kids because the women he is talking to won't buy his lies about you being bascially separated if you are on the photo.

Best I'm struggling Aston why he'd be blocking you!

Butteredtoastandcoffee Sat 09-May-20 08:46:36

Yes. Other strange behaviour too. Which is why I don't want to ask sadangry

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BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz Sat 09-May-20 08:46:43

You can add a profile picture to a "group" on WhatsApp- so it won't be the same as the pic that appears on 1-2-1 chats.

Is the whatsapp with the kids a group one?

Friendsofmine Sat 09-May-20 08:47:10

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Persiaclementine Sat 09-May-20 08:47:50

Hes deffinatly blocking you. You can either just ask him why hes blocking you numerous times (have proof of this with screen shots) so he cant say of I must have done it by mistake. or you can wait and see what happens and try and find out what hes up to, wouldn't know how though tbh.

LittleBoyJuly2020 Sat 09-May-20 08:51:35

I think best thing to do is hold tight and keep digging. If I were you I'd be going through his phone at some point.

Fizzysours Sat 09-May-20 08:52:03

OP if you don't want him to see your message when he unblocks you, go back to it and press hold and you get the option to delete it xx

TwentyViginti Sat 09-May-20 08:52:35

Another one saying temporary blocks. The pic changed to just the kids is a bit suss too. I'd play him at his own game and do temp blocks back - just to see if he mentions it!

Notapheasantplucker Sat 09-May-20 08:53:27

If you delete your message to him, it will show as 'message deleted', so he'll know you've sent him one then deleted it

Fizzysours Sat 09-May-20 08:53:57

Nooooo...don't alert him if you want clues. Playing games just alerts him. And annoys anyone over the age of ten

Chocolate123 Sat 09-May-20 08:54:49

Are you part of the group with the kids?

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