Been dating a man for 3 months that is great to chat to, proper family man and decent job, wants me to be happy, sex is good.
But...I don’t look at him and think oh my god I fancy you. I don’t want to dive into bed with him. In part I think that is to do with the fact he is so available to me. Always replies to messages, wants to speak every day, calls when he’s says he will. There’s no mystery!
It’s almost like I have a ready made relationship there where he is wanting a future with me and is willing to show me that. It scares me and is a bit of a turn off. But I know this is linked to me being used to abusive men who play games or aren’t emotionally available.
Should I give this more time? Or is it a no go with questioning whether I fancy him already?
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Am I about to write off a good thing? (History of abusive relationships)
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Penguinlitter · 05/05/2020 16:23
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