I'm really struggling at the moment with what's going on with my mum. I have posted on here before about her behaviour. Even though on the outside people (including my husband) can see she is unreasonable, and I KNOW it is unreasonable, I still can't quell the voices inside telling me it is all my fault (she's very happy to tell me it's all my fault too!).
Lots of instances lately - I think she feels she has lost control due to lock down. Everything I do is met with a negative comment and culminated yesterday as she feels I didn't include her enough in DS birthday. I face timed her when we sung happy birthday and I thought she was happy with that but I received a message telling me that I had 'let her down' because I hadn't put more photos and videos on facebook. I put 1 or 2 on but to be honest DS was a bit hard work that day and I didn't really take any. I told her this and was told in no uncertain terms that I had spoiled him and had never taken her advice and this is why his behaviour is bad (he's 6).
I ignored under DH's orders and now she's sent another message telling me that she knows its not what I want to hear but I need to get him looked at for his behaviour and that it's probably what I feed him.
I'm still ignoring. I want to withdraw but can't get over this FOG. Please help with some wise words from people who have been through this and come out the other side!
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thegreenlight · 04/05/2020 12:59
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