I am really struggling to work out a fair way that my H and I can divide family spending. We live in my flat that I own outright. We have a daughter who is 2 years old. I went back to work in December working 2 days a week. My husbandworks in telly. I wish we couldhave a clear way to equally contribute but he has set himself up as a company and pays himselfa really small salary each month but is then able to expenselots of purchases and withdraw some money for the company each month. He feels that his salary is how much he earns while I feel how muchthe company takes in is his gross salary.We are at logger headsabout how to work things out. I don't earn a lot and while I was on Matt leave I felt really skint. He did pay for all the bills once I was not getting any Matt pay and he paid for all food and flights. He works abroad a lot so we went with him when I was on leave. I had an allowance of £250 a month which really was not enough and always felt skint. He knows I really resented him being able to shop how he liked and he loves shopping!! He has now started to hide clothes he has bought for himself.I swore I would make sure to keep enough of my new salary so that I didn't feel skint anymore. I pay half of it into the family account to pay for bills, nursery and food and then get to keep the other half for me. I pay £400 into account while he pays £936.I borrowed £5,000 from his company before we had our daughter to redo the kitchen, when I went on Matt leave I reduced the repayments to £20 a month. He reminded me that I need to up my repayments as I am now working. I agree I do but I can't help but feel angry. If I increase the amount I will be again back to having very little money for myself. I worked out roughly last year that he earned around £63,000 and that was a conservative calculation but he says itsonly £12,000 as thats how much he pays himself. I would like him to increase the salary he pays himself and then we pool our salaries and have an equal amount to spend each but he won't do that. He tells me I need to save money, I need to pay towards house refurbishments but if I do I am again left with hardly anything. He works away a lot and usually for months at a time so I do a lot of solo parenting. Since having our daughter I have never worked so hard or felt so broke, while his earnings remain the same. I do know that compared to a lot of others I am very lucky. But I am really resenting the imbalance in the family finances. Please if anyone is in a simulairesituation trying to find a fair system when it involves someone registered as a comapany, I would greatly appreciate it!!
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