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Is your relationship suffering because DP is not living with you during lockdown?

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Skips12 Sat 02-May-20 06:37:31

My DP and I live separately. Been together over a year. Not told my kids about him because a) we keep falling out and it rocks my faith in the relationship and b) I don't know how well they'd take it, they're 9 and 5. So obviously we couldn't lockdown together. We are not contacting each other that much and I am spending all of my time with my kids and my ex. I am not used to spending time with my ex, we split up over 18 months ago but we are getting along really well and neither of us are seeing any other adult irl.
I barely think about DP at all.
Anyone else feel their relationship is suffering because they are separated due to lockdown.….?

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Whaddyathinkofthis Sat 02-May-20 06:47:10

Sounds like lockdown is just exposing the 'relationship' for what it is/isn't, tbh.

Jane1978xx Sat 02-May-20 06:47:20

So you fall out with your partner a lot and you aren’t contacting each other much ? Maybe this time apart has shown you that you aren’t suited. When you say not much what do you mean ?

I have a bf I’ve been seeing 4/5 months we started off texting all day and speaking once or twice on the phone . We now speak every night and text a little. It’s impacted me as I really miss him physically but we are getting on well and making plans for future

Skips12 Sat 02-May-20 06:57:23

I am not convinced our relationship will survive lockdown. Me ex and I are really good friends now which is great as it wasn't brilliant between us before. We were amicable but certainly not having a laugh and spending any time together. I am wondering if I still have feelings for my ex?

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Skips12 Sat 02-May-20 07:00:12

A few texts a day, not many. The occasional call every few days.

I feel really confused right now.

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midnightstar66 Sat 02-May-20 07:25:33

Sounds like a good time to reassess the relationship. It's probably not working out. However it's easy to get rose tinted glasses re your ex during a time like this when you are both lonely and in need of company. What are the reasons you split?! Would those issues arise again after a lockdown?

wantmorenow Sat 02-May-20 08:32:31

Suggest if you and your BF keep falling out that it isn't a good relationship. Time to end it regardless of residual feelings for ex. One thing at a time. It doesn't sound like a good relationship. Shouldn't be that hard.

My DP and I not seen each other for 5 or 6 weeks. Lost track. Been together nearly 6 years. Relationship totally fine, missing him but enjoying time with my kids and our walks. DP and I text and speak daily albeit briefly.

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