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phoebemakesnoise Fri 01-May-20 22:11:39

Hi everyone
I'm 27 and a single mum of 2 lovely kids, ages 5 and 1. Their father is not involved, his own choice. Lockdown is going surprisingly ok for us 3 but naturally, it has highlighted my loneliness and I've noticed that I'm worrying about if I will ever meet anyone, if anyone will ever want to date a single mother. I have a lovely little flat, nice friends, I'm told that I'm attractive and I love to get to know others, etc. I've never been married, and actually, I don't think I've ever been in love. My heart aches a bit every time I see a dad with his babies, or a happily married couple. I would really love all that for myself but try to focus on what I do have and be grateful for that instead. Is there any hope for me?!

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CyberNan Fri 01-May-20 22:16:13

don't be ridiculous, of course there is hope... you are 27, not 97...

Jane1978xx Fri 01-May-20 22:51:22

Yes there is hope. Do you have anyone to look after the kids (your mum etx) so you can get out and about or date after lockdown

phoebemakesnoise Fri 01-May-20 23:08:32

Yes, lots of people willing to babysit smile I've never dated since being a mum so it will be interesting for sure. Not sure where to meet people, or if I should even be looking for it or just waiting for it to happen. Oh, I don't know!

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TheresGotToBeMoreToLife Fri 01-May-20 23:12:22

I'm exactly the same, 34 with 2 sons and a single mum. Quite happy in my bubble but lonely. Sometimes I feel the same, but I am always reminded that life can change in a heartbeat and i am sure it will for you too.

TheresGotToBeMoreToLife Fri 01-May-20 23:14:44

Oh and a lot of people say wait and love will find you .... I'm not really in that camp. If I wanted a new job or house i wouldn't sit around waiting for it to come to me, i would be proactive and go out looking for it. Why would a relationship be any different?

Maybe a first step is online dating. Even if it goes nowhere at all, you might get an idea of what you do (and definitely don't!) want

StarlightLady Sat 02-May-20 08:17:15

OP - Yes!

And with just a little tweaking, your succinct opening post would make a lovely dating profile and hopefully lead you to someone special. flowers

CodenameVillanelle Sat 02-May-20 08:21:25

To be brutally honest I would wait to date until your youngest is a year or two older. However to answer your question of course you have time and opportunities to find a loving relationship. Just don't rush and don't see it as providing a family for your children. You are their family and they don't need another parent.

phoebemakesnoise Sat 02-May-20 10:11:11

Thanks everyone for the replies smile not looking to date just yet, maybe in the next year or so.

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