Having been on MN for some time, I completely get that friendships don't owe you anything and if someone wants to ghost you it's up to them. But still for me they're important. One of my friends has moved away for lockdown to be with a family member.
She's always been very warm and caring. Since she's moved she doesn't contact me at all and when I've arranged to speak to her she has to go really soon or at times hasn't picked up when I've called even when we've arranged it in advance.
I completely understand if she's moved on as she's got a very fulfilling set up where she is now.
What I don't understand is how I could have got it so completely wrong to think we were close when we clearly weren't at all. Things like she'd message after we met up to say what a wonderful time she'd had and hug me for ages when we met up etc. And say how much she loved me. And it would be equally her that contacted me to meet up. We shared a lot about our lives and she was always really encouraging and supportive as I was to her.
Then it's like she's moved on without a backwards glance. Of course that's her right but how could I have got it so wrong? How are you supposed to know where you are with someone when the actions and words just don't add up to how they really feel.
I'm just very hurt and let down. I can't even talk to her about it because I can't get to speak to her, and I know that it's a big taboo to do that anyway. I'm not very needy in that I expect to be on the phone everyday but it's the total dismissal that's so hurtful and confusing.
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Been ghosted by a friend
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Pinklynx · 30/04/2020 02:37
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