I just posted about a situation with an ex. This is a separate post about someone else.
I had a full on intense relationship which dragged on too long and have now been split for a couple of months.
I purposely haven’t gone back online dating as I don’t think I’m ready now, or if I ever will again. Certainly not for a long time anyway as too much going on in my life, so I’m not consciously seeking out other people.
Anyway ...
There was a guy I fancied when I was single, a local connection, shared friends, interests and we’d meet by coincidence at a lot of local events and got on. Nothing else.
We then both started seeing other people as we’re both dating.
We both became single and had a very sporadic mild flirtation via messenger but it was very chaste and shortlived.
I then got back with my ex and it was a disaster and we ended. Since then me and the other guy have occasional brief convos. Always instigated by him and again, sporadic and if we bumped into each other irl we never mentioned it, as usually with our kids.
So recently he messaged me when very drunk, lockdown home drinking.
He then said he’d like to see me naked and I shut him down straight away. I wasn’t ready for it and he apologise immediately, and the next time he contacted me he said ‘no naked talk this time’ and we joked about it and that was the end of it and no communication since.
Lots of my friends are saying I should have gone for it and had some fun especially as I’d fancied him for a couple of years before and we are now both single.
But I was put off by the naked talk, maybe I’m over sensitive or wary since my ex was not transparent about sexual or communication with other women (& men) so my guard is up massively now and everything to do with men is a red flag.
So I think I’m right to be wary at this point .
But what if I’m wrong and my friends are right?
Is this perfect timing or is he just another sleaze?
Bizarrely he’s another ‘pillar of the community’ type just like my recent ex.
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famousforwrongreason · 29/04/2020 22:50
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