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TheRedhen1 Wed 29-Apr-20 15:36:01

I'm sure we all know several people like this...

The person that boasts on social media about achievements that they haven't actually made.

I have someone in my family who does this constantly.

They also do it in real life. Make a cake once and will tell you they're the new Mary Berry. Go for a run once and tell you they're nearly as good as Mo Farah. That's bad enough but then they pick on your area of expertise and try and advise you on it despite them having little or no knowledge. They don't stick with anything as they get bored easily but then want to take all the glory as if they had done the mundane parts.

I'm sure it's down to their insecurities and trying to impress etc but I'm finding it really irritating. I try and ignore it which probably makes it worse as they then try a bit harder to get my attention but I don't want to be nasty by calling them out on it every time, because to be honest, there would be no conversation left as everything they say about themselves is bullshit.

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SomeoneElseEntirelyNow Wed 29-Apr-20 15:37:56

SO annoying. But that's why you can mute/unfollow people on social media.

TheRedhen1 Wed 29-Apr-20 15:50:56

This is my husbands close family so there's only so much ignoring I can do!

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SomeoneElseEntirelyNow Wed 29-Apr-20 15:57:43

If it's posts on SM, surely you can just not engage? Are you really expecting to "like" and comment on everything they say?

Gobbycop Wed 29-Apr-20 16:02:15

I call them out every time and make them look a complete prick.

Caselgarcia Wed 29-Apr-20 16:04:12

We have one of these in our family. All his posts/updates are about him and how great he is. I once thought it was just me that he grated on but after a recent family get together, we all confessed we felt the same way about him
His posts/updates generate absolutely no feedback from anyone in the family
Doesn't stop him unfortunately....

TheRedhen1 Wed 29-Apr-20 16:36:47

It's not on MN.

It could be a comment on my posts saying how he is doing the same as me - or better, when he isn't.

It could be his own post judging someone else nastily and then doing that very same thing.

My husband just says to ignore it. It irritates him too but he seems to not get infuriated like I do.

I just hate my friends and the rest of the family who don't know him as well thinking what a great bloke he is for doing x y or z when he does no such thing.

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CuriousaboutSamphire Wed 29-Apr-20 16:48:14

My dad, who I'm very low contact with, started commenting on my business Facebook posts. Weird judgemental little comments about greedy landlords and lazy benefit scrounging tenants. I blocked him. From my personal Facebook too.

He was astounded. Claimed he couldn't see what was wrong with him commenting. He used to be self employed, he had no excuse.

2 years on and he is still blocked and my mum has been warned against letting him use her account or similar.

Be rude, it's your business/ livelihood. He has to keep his nose out.

And your DH can do all of the explaining.

TheRedhen1 Wed 29-Apr-20 17:15:11

He said to me and my husband on a video call that he definitely won't be made redundant as he's such a great employee. He said he hopes his colleagues get the sack as they joined after him and aren't as good as him. He said he intends to sit around in his pyjamas all day doing as little as possible.

He's on full pay and doing bugger all work from home.

He then posts on social media sharing a post that criticises the government for not helping government employees enough.

It's that sort of thing.

I post on social media about something a friend has done to raise money for charity, he then comments on how he's done such and such for charity when I know he hasn't done anything.

I comment on a mutual family members post during the day and he comments how he is working hard insinuating that I'm not because I'm posting on social media during the day (I'm self employed and work every weekend, early mornings etc, not that it matters! Ffs)

Getting the gist?

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mbosnz Wed 29-Apr-20 19:18:24

I'd be blocking him every which way from Sunday.

CuriousaboutSamphire Thu 30-Apr-20 10:23:35

Block him, hide him, mute him... just make him disappear!

He's a Billy Liar and you can do bugger all about them!

CuriousaboutSamphire Thu 30-Apr-20 10:24:10

Block him, hide him, mute him... just make him disappear!

He's a Billy Liar and you can do bugger all about them!

DeeCeeCherry Thu 30-Apr-20 10:30:45

You're giving him far too much headspace and should have blocked him already.

BlackAmericanoNoSugar Thu 30-Apr-20 10:36:02

Snooze him for 30 days. I can't tell you how many people I have snoozed since lockdown started, mostly in groups that I belong to but a few people that I know in rl too. I'm ruthless. grin

TheRedhen1 Thu 30-Apr-20 20:50:00

Yes, definitely giving him too much headspace. I'll block as much as I can on social media and grit my teeth when he's with us.

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