Ooooookay.
So in Jan I got engaged to my DP. He’s amazing, love him to bits, can’t wait to be married and start a family with him.
My “D”M... was very obviously not impressed when we told her. We have never had a close relationship. Younger DSis is the golden child and has been with her partner for 6 years, but DSis still loves at my parents home and is apparently not planning to move in with her BF until they are married.
DP and I had my mum and sister over for dinner a few days after we got engaged, my mum and sister basically sat me down and lectured me about how I should be planning a “proper” wedding that all my mum’s friends and family can be impressed by. Mum also stated “well of course DSis will be your maid of honour”, and I was taken aback by how suddenly she brought it up that I just agreed without taking the time to think about it.
A few months have passed and DM and DF have both offered to help with wedding costs, which were really greatful for, but while my dad has just said he’s happy for us and let us get on with it my mum and sister are basically planning the wedding from their house. When I call to see how they are doing I get told that my sister has found her perfect desss and that my mum has talked to the caterers and they can do her ideal menu and I am just thinking that I am not even wanting to go through with it any more.
We signed a contract with the venue several weeks ago and honestly while I was thrilled at the time I now just want to cancel it and run away and do it somewhere else. If DP was not so close to his family I would want to elope without question but he is really tight with his family and does not want them to miss our.
Should I just let mum and sister plan it and get on with it? Without her help we would not be able to do half as nice a wedding but I’m on two mins whether it is worth it
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DM “helping” with wedding
prenuptiallypanicked · 28/04/2020 07:28
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