About 18 months ago, I was left by my boyfriend of five years for someone else.
It is a long and drawn out story, which I don't want to go into.
The problem is, it has made me feel pretty insecure about something.
He told me OW was 'fun' or 'fun to be with'. He used those words a lot of times.
What does it mean?
I think I am quite witty, warm, easy company. I can be playful and silly. I'm more often serious than not (busy life, 2 children - one with SEN, I studied for a MA during our relationship, I have a stressful job...), but I wouldn't have thought I wasn't 'fun'.
I am not always happy, though. I am quite emotional and don't suppress things, so when I'm happy, I'm happy and when I'm not, I'm visibly not. Is that a problem?
Am I even capable of 'fun-ness'?
Before someone says - I'm not sure this about novelty factor and we didn't live together, so it wasn't about getting bogged down in the daily grind. No one was washing each other's underwear. If I was a fun person, I probably would have managed to be fun a few times a week.
I wasn't. I didn't and he chose someone who is fun.
How do I fix this so that I'm not a fun sponge to the next poor bugger I end up with?
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What does 'fun' mean
maudspellbody · 27/04/2020 09:22
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