Boyfriend messaging my friends behind my back

PiscesLady · 2020-04-26 22:09:43

I’ll try and keep this as short as I can... Been with DP nearly a year now. We don’t live together , we were looking at places to rent before the lockdown and had booked some viewings So at the moment we are currently living separate, both admitted we are fine and not much we can do until the lockdown is restricted. Apparently today I seemed ‘quiet’, we only communicate via WhatsApp daily and the occasional phone call every few days. I have been a bit busy today with house work and I’ve started reading a book I’ve been very interested in more so than usual which I’m really enjoying! I don’t usually get the chance to read. I have just got off the phone to him and he tells admits to me he ‘may have been naughty’ and told me he ‘messaged one of my friends earlier today’ I said who ...(was one of my best friends he has never met...). He told me he mentioned to her I had been ‘quiet’ and was ‘worried about me’. Am I wrong to be concerned over this? I told him this morning when he mentioned I was being ‘quiet’ that I was absolutely fine, not sure what else I can say.... He admitted to me that he thought she may tell him something I wouldn’t tell him?! I would tell my DP absolutely anything that was bothering me so I don’t know what he means by this. He admitted to me today also that for the past x2 mornings he had said to me ‘Good morning Girlfriend’ and I have not said it back for the past x2 mornings. I admit I have not said ‘Good morning Boyfriend’ because I forgot and didn’t really think anything of it. Didn’t think something like that would affect a grown man so much? I am so worried this is going to ruin us as I do love him very much and I see a potential future with him but I am finding these messages too intense and invasive. Am I being silly? This is now the 3rd time he has done this to me... the second time was to my Mum who he had never met! He mentioned to her he had got me a birthday present so he didn’t want her to go and get the same for me but I wondered if that was just an excuse to talk to her...? As my last relationship was very unemotional and no love involved from my ex DP, so going to another relationship with this sort of intensity I am trying to get use to. Thank you for reading this and I hope this makes sense xxx

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