Hello, thank you for reading. I am asking for a bit of advise about my marriage, to know what is normal and what is not.
I have been with DH for nine years and have one DC 2 years gorgeous girl who is my light in life. Born after long TTc, three cycles IVF.
Usually things feel alright with OH.
We all have flows, he is a bit of a work slave, loves what he does but can be consuming. Even prefers to work on weekends and bank holidays. Also a bit closed off sometimes, I wondered if he might have a touch of Asperger but he is really quite sensitive and intuned to my emotions. Get on well, good laughs. He doesn't give me compliments but takes good care of me and DD. He doesn't drink or smoke or drugs and does cook and do a lot with DD. He is Spanish, I am from Mexico and we live in the UK now.
Every month when I get my regular I get horrible PMS (PMDD), I have no patience with him and will pick fights when I now I shouldn't. I even said in my head, take the rubbish out, just walk away but I can't help it. I start to analyse our relationship and see all things that are wrong with him and us and me. For example he doesn't put DDs toys away neatly or back with the right pieces, will just chuck them in a basket and I have to go back and sort them. Or I will look into a new thing for DD (a new toy or buggy) and he rolls his eyes that I am buying more things but then he loves it. Or I spent a few hours sorting out our cupboard and clearing space and he doesn't thank me. Or just the general idea that if I have free Time I will use it to do things for the family but he will take the time for himself (play games or read something related to his work.) Little things like that but it adds up and makes me feel unappreciated. Then that all adds up to an idea in my head that we don't have a good marriage, he's selfish , I'm unhappy, we should get divorced. (This would be absolute nightmare since we are not UK citizens and have a DC here but no other family.
Once my period has come I usually feel better and see these small things as normal, no one is perfect and feel very content. Does this seem normal or odd? Has anyone else had this? what do you do? Xx
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SadAndLonelyMummy · 26/04/2020 20:47
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