Right I'll try not waffle on for too long.
DH has this really annoying trait which I can normally live with however he's furloughed and I'm on mat leave so we are seeing each other 24/7. He gets so defensive about the tiniest things, I'll give a couple of examples.
DS is 5 months and we give him his last bottle in bed in the evening. DH usually does this as he'd be in from work in time to do it when he was working. I then usually rock DS to sleep and pop him in his cot. Sometimes DH falls asleep while I'm doing this. I got up to put DS in his cot and accidentally bumped into DHs foot. I said "oh sorry, I didn't mean to wake you" he's immediately on the defensive "I wasn't asleep, why would you say I was asleep when I'm not". I just don't get why it's a big deal!
The one that's really getting to me just now though is his muttering and he actually had me questioning if I'm hearing things. I occasionally get frustrated with things e.g. a jar not opening when I'd like it to or the cat trying to murder me by getting under my feet. Today DS was starting to grump at me and I have a splitting headache so I said to him very nicely (bearing in mind he's 5 months old and pays more attention to tone than what I'm actually saying) "please don't grump, mummy has such a sore head." I was still playing with him and trying to work out if he needed a nap or was just getting bored. DH starts muttering under his breath as usual "oh great, here we go." "Always the same, here we go". I asked him why he was muttering and if he wanted to discuss something with me I was all ears. He just flat out denies saying anything, he wasn't muttering, he never mutters. I've noticed him doing it for months and have brought it up with him several times but if I mention it it always turns into an argument. So maybe he isn't muttering?
I'm recovering from PND and he's suggested it might be part of my illness but other than that I feel much better. I'm on medication for it and I've checked the side effects, nothing stands out to me for auditory hallucinations?
He is generally a nice person and is great with DS so I'm really confused.
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amazedmummy · 26/04/2020 16:41
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