Since having DCs, both mine and DHs bodies have changed a lot. I have gained around 1 stone 9 in total, whilst he has gained more than 3 stone. His BMI is 38.
If I say anything to him, he chirps up "you need to lose some weight yourself" which I am obviously aware of, but I am breastfeeding and have found my body is holding on to fat despite healthy eating. I am exercising daily, doing a 1.5 mile school run twice a day, 3 times a week (pre-lockdown of course) and I am moving my body every day now. He however is quite lazy.
The main issue is sleeping with him. He weighs so much that the mattress of our bed slopes with his weight and I'm finding myself rolling towards him. He keeps complaining about me hogging the bed and I didn't say anything for a while, until this week. On telling him, he said I was using it as an excuse to moan about his weight (I wasn't at all.)
I am also finding that my back is not supported at all in bed and I am waking with back and rib pain, due to the sloping mattress. Some evenings, when he workds late, he sleeps in the spare room and my back doesn't hurt in the morning.
Every time I mention anything, he gets offended and turns it on me about my weight. But I've had 2 massive babies and fed them myself. I was huge when pregnant and measured off the scale both times. I will get back to my old weight again, but I know that it's not quite the right time for my lactating body. If I mention us dieting together he will just say "you do it your way, let me do it mine."
Do other people struggle sharing a bed with a large man?
What can I do?
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Itsthemixer · 26/04/2020 14:02
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