He’s messaging someone isn’t he

[Loveabitofrain]

So I’ve had issues with my partner in the past re messaging woman. In all honesty I’ve never trusted him since. Yeah I know why am I still with him. Very good question.

Big row last week where I explain how it’s all made me feel and I don’t trust him, conversation ended with him understanding and promising to help more with that.

We had a few drinks tonight and I went to bed an hour or so before him. He comes up and his phone goes twice (text). Snoring his head off. I looked at his phone to see who messages are from. Something doesn’t feel right. Bear in mind it’s 3am. His phone says “2 iMessages from JoJo”.

I’ve woken him to find out and got the usual abuse. Won’t show me and claims he’s talking to a woman off twitter about all the lockdown business. She gave him her number. He’s been very active debating on Twitter (I can see it all).

It’s bullshit right ladies?! This is typical gaslighting isn’t it??

I’ve just been on his Instagram and there is a woman there calling herself Jojo. Old school friend. Bit too much of a coincidence huh?!

[Janaih]

Stop torturing yourself, finish with him. He wont ever admit to it. Even if you had proof he would still deny it.

[WonderWomanBra]

Well why is she messaging him at 3am?I think you should confront him over this,even if he gives you abuse.

[Loveabitofrain]

Oh it’s over! I made that promise to myself,

But yes I will confront him just for my own peace of mind.

I’m so angry!!

[carolebaskinsheadband]

You know you don't trust him. Put your self respect and self worth first. Leave him and keep away from him.

[DBML]

I’m shit with relationship advice, but I do know you deserve better than this.

[Thepigeonsarecoming]

You already know he’s emotionally if not physically cheating on you. What do you plan to do now?

[Loveabitofrain]

I plan on ending it. I made myself a promise and I’ll stick to it.

I have a whole heap of shit going on and am in court with my ex over our children.

I’m Emotionally battered and can’t deal with much more.

[WonderWomanBra]

Stay strong girl!Keep us updated.x

[Thepigeonsarecoming]

@Loveabitofrain stay strong, you’ve been through enough shit before, this is just a blip

[Loveabitofrain]

Thanks ladies. I’ll keep you updated x

[Weenurse]

You don’t need this crap in your life right now.

[Princesspickle777]

No you can’t trust him and your instincts are obviously right. He may have told you the truth and is Only messaging ‘jojo’ from twitter about
Lockdown but this won’t be all it’s about!.

[Loveabitofrain]

I’ve found said jojo on Twitter. Same political affiliation as my other half and opinion on lockdown. Got some mouth on her! Married with kids. Was getting a hammering on Twitter early hours.

No facility to dm. Don’t now much about twitter but presumably she can message others??

Either way no need for an exchange of numbers is there??

[Janaih]

What do you hope to achieve by playing detective? It wont give you peace of mind.

[Loveabitofrain]

I think it’s up to me what gives me peace of mind!

I’m here for support not criticism.

[Onacleardayyoucansee]

You say you confronted him and he gave you the 'usual abuse', if he cant have a conversation with you and reassure you its probably time to tell him to go anyway, regardless.
Why is it ok that he speaks to you abusively?

The phone number thing is crossing your boundaries and thats your intuition prodding you, as you have been here before.

Maybe take some time to focus on your self, this is all a bit much when you are fragile anyway.

Put yourself first, your feelings, your peace, your wellbeing.

[Buggedandconfused]

I’ve been there & couldn’t deal with it. Dump him & have peace - you’ll never have it once trust has gone.

[copycopypaste]

He obviously wants to talk to women, even when you've discussed it and he agreed not to do it again. Regardless of the topic of conversation with these women, he's trampling all over your boundaries

[moonriverandme]

I belive that if you follow each other on Twitter you can dm.

[moonriverandme]

*believe

[Loveabitofrain]

Thanks for the sensible talk ladies x

[Daisy12Maisie]

I have close make friends from work that I message but the messages are absolutely not private. I dont have a partner but if I did him reading them wouldnt be a problem. I think it's the secrecy not the messages that's a problem. Once the trust is gone it's gone. Get rid and good luck for the court case.

[Daisy12Maisie]

Male friends

[Kittykat93]

If he wouldn't show you the messages he's obviously guilty. Don't think there's much else too it!

[Buggedandconfused]

Also OP, he sounds like a dickhead, constantly on Twitter, bleating on about shite to randoms. This alone would piss me right off, let alone private texting some fucking woman. He sounds like a self absorbed angry pratt.