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oh FECK. i said something stupid last night now DH is in a HUGE huff

(26 Posts)
purplemonkeydishwasher Sat 15-Sep-07 09:30:54

We were debating about politics in a half serious/half joking kind of way and I told him he is recist and sexist. (He's not)
my dad was in the room. I apologized a few hundred times.
Now DH's pride is hurt and he will barely even look at me.
(BJ out of the question because he won't let me get that close!)

cookiesandcream Sat 15-Sep-07 09:34:22

Paint face with boot polish and then tell him to prove he's not sexist or racist by being nice to you again grin

edam Sat 15-Sep-07 09:38:36

Oh dear. I can see why he's in a huff. But he should let you apologise. Hope he calms down soon.

FluffyMummy123 Sat 15-Sep-07 09:39:08

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Carmenere Sat 15-Sep-07 09:40:31

You've apologised now leave it. You don't need to grovel. Go out for the day.

stripeytiger Sat 15-Sep-07 09:42:34

You can't really do anymore than apologise, so leave him to stew. Think he's being a bit childish to be honest.

purplemonkeydishwasher Sat 15-Sep-07 09:47:53

i think it's just that it was in front of my dad.
plus we're not very good at fighting. he goes in a huff, i cry. great fun had by all. which is why it very rarely happens.

FluffyMummy123 Sat 15-Sep-07 10:11:20

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TheHerdNerd Sat 15-Sep-07 10:14:16

Ha ha, brilliant - if this had been a bloke that called a woman racist/sexist in from of his dad, you would have all been "ooh, what are you doing with this loser? He's so insensitive. What a pig!"

Double standards up the YING YANG. grin

NappiesGalore Sat 15-Sep-07 10:16:11

actually, the more you apologise and grovel, the more it confirms that the comment really was terrible and bad and awful. when in fact it was an illjudged joke!

stop apologising. state calmly that it was an error of judement, you had no intention of hurting him and you are going to move on now. he is welcome to join you when hes finished sulking gotten over it too.

then go out for the day.

StealthPolarBear Sat 15-Sep-07 10:21:25

can kind of see where he's coming from, I would hate to be called racist, and don't really understand how you can do that in a jokey manner - can you give us a bit more of the context?
Sexist is different, I call my DH that all the time (last time was when he told me I had smaller feet so I could push the pram more easily ) I don't know why that's different - it just is!

FluffyMummy123 Sat 15-Sep-07 10:21:55

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StealthPolarBear Sat 15-Sep-07 10:24:04

yes i do that to dh
"let me know when we're talking again"
but then it backfires cos he says "ok" and carries on sulking - I always crack first!

Kathyis6incheshigh Sat 15-Sep-07 10:24:45

That's crap, TheHerdNerd - we'd have said 'has he apologised?' The point here is that PMD has apologised like mad and that's not being accepted.

NappiesGalore Sat 15-Sep-07 10:24:45

think one would only get all ott huffy about it f it was a bit close to the bone tbh. if hes truly not either of those things, why doesnt he just shrug it off??

LIKE "how long will this huff last" q

StealthPolarBear Sat 15-Sep-07 10:25:33

Have been thinking and I don't think my last post was right, you know him and presumably he isn't racist or you wouldn't be with him. In which case he should understand that you didn't mean it, have a small sulk and then get over it.
I'd be more worried about being called racist by people who know me less well.

NotAnOtter Sat 15-Sep-07 10:25:52

dp would forgive anything for oral action

HorribleHorace Sat 15-Sep-07 10:29:40

omg - i sincerely hope you are joking about offering a BJ because of what you said? hmm

fgs, if he's not man enough to take a joke and accept an apology I wouldn't be offering him anything other than a kick up the arse

FluffyMummy123 Sat 15-Sep-07 11:02:26

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NotAnOtter Sat 15-Sep-07 12:02:22

yes you are right actually
good job i never do

Wisteria Sat 15-Sep-07 12:08:42

My dp would have seen it as a compliment if I'd called him sexist grin 'macho tag' like thing, hates being called racist but that's because his whole family is and he's not. It's not as though you called him an ugly fat twat is it?

He's being ridiculous, stop apologising and as others have said go out and ignore him - has he never ever said the wrong thing to you? Ever????

morningpaper Sat 15-Sep-07 12:11:15

agree cod

Gobbledigook Sat 15-Sep-07 12:14:02

How does anyone know her dh is being unreasonable?

You know nothing about the conversation except that she called him racist and sexist.

Maybe she was totally unreasonable and maybe he has a right to be in a huff?

Maybe an apology isn't cutting it because he thinks this is what she really thinks of him.

Who knows. We know NOWT about the conversation.

Gobbledigook Sat 15-Sep-07 12:15:05

..and TheNerdHerd is quite right, imo.

purplemonkeydishwasher Sat 15-Sep-07 13:05:37

Cod - the BJ comment was joke.
obviously i should just stop talking altogether!

we've moved on from barely looking at me to looking at me in a disgusted way with slight head shake.


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