Where do I start.. I used to go out with this guy 20 years ago we split and both moved on, we met again roughly around a year ago, relationship started again. So he constantly calls me his exes name and then tries to make out he didn’t by carrying on conversation like it didn’t just happen, second issue- we now live together and I Own my own home he just pays for food, he said he would help me before he moved in, we have discussed the money but apparently it’s fair him just paying for food as it’s my house, so I pay everything mortgage bills, extra bits daily if we need it, the other day he was stuck with his internet banking and he showed my his account he’s been sending his ex money as well every month, they do have a 18yr who earns his own money. I didn’t say anything because I was so shocked the amounts he was sending nearly every day, he’s told me he doesn’t give her anything and wished he could help me more. He still doesn’t know I know but it’s started causing an issue as he will then call me her name again. They have been split up 5 years. The other day he was talking to his son and he said he will sort his mums car out with parts and ring everyone for her, He went and sat In the car and did it secretly; I am now at a point where I feel he’s still emotionally involved regardless what he says is it time to love on and let him be with his ex? It’s making me really uncomfortable
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Nope doesn’t do a thing I mean nothing at all, he has moved 179 miles from home, I suppose I have felt a bit guilty over that, but this is now an issue and I am
Not supporting another man especially one that’s not over his ex and one that obviously still very much in contact and financially still supporting her life style, the final insult came the other day when he asked me to pay half for something and I said I can’t afford it because of my out going and he told me to manage my money better.
That is short was the last insult. Emotionally now he’s on his own and soon as the covid restrictions lift he’s gone, I have even found him somewhere to go incase he throws that one at me 
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