This is probably going to be long winded so will warn you now.
My BIL is now married to the girl who used to be a very close friend (whole other story but we are no longer friends after a big fall out). They were seeing each other before DH and I got together and over the last 8 years we built up a very close friendship.
Her and her now DH (my BIL) went through a rocky patch about 6 years ago after their DS was born, they split up but were on and off like a tap. He had sexual relationships with other people and she did too (she knows about his other 'relationships' although he does not know about hers). During this time she fell pregnant and had a abortion, I didn't know about this at the time but she confided in me sometime after the event. She told the other man she was pregnant and she also told him she was planning on having an abortion.
I have never told another sole about this and never ever planned to. However, I am now concerned that should any of this ever come out I am going to be involved and I really don't want to be.
I don't particularly want to tell my DH as he will 100% tell his brother (as would I if I was put in his situation) and that will then possibly cause their marriage to break up, they have 3 children with another on the way and as much as I dislike and have no loyalty to said person anymore, I wouldn't want that to happen to anyone - I would also run the risk of causing problems in my own marriage from keeping this information from DH for as long as I have.
Equally though, I think it is inevitable that this will come out and become public knowledge consider said 'friend' has now told 2 other people that I know of and the baby's dad was also in on the loop who is an old friend of my BIL's. I don't want to be put in a position where I should've said something to my DH and I didn't.
What would you all do ?
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I'm involved in a situation I really don't want to be and need some advice
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FoghornLeghorn · 13/09/2007 11:06
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