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Anyone else’s relationship taking a nosedive during lockdown.

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Lonelyjoanie Sat 04-Apr-20 19:35:24

Ours has hit rock bottom. Lots of past issues resurfacing. Think divorce is on the cards tbh.

It’s shit. Stuck in the house with a sulking silent husband.

Anyone else things they are going to emerge from this separated?

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playingbytherules Sat 04-Apr-20 19:38:36

Yes, it's getting worse everyday! How are you managing?

OhioOhioOhio Sat 04-Apr-20 19:38:58

I'm newly divorced. Every day I'm grateful this didn't happen when I was married. Lawyers are going to make a mint out of this.

Lonelyjoanie Sat 04-Apr-20 19:51:28

playingbytherules

It’s getting on top of me today. It’s like a big black cloud over the house. I think if we wasn’t on lock down I’d have asked him to leave. There isn’t shouting but punishment of death by the silent treatment.

How are you getting on? wine

Ohio oh yes. I agree there.

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playingbytherules Sat 04-Apr-20 19:58:25

@Lonelyjoanie same really! Trying to avoid each other where possible, really thinking that after all this it might be time to move on.

At least the weather is nice so I can hide in the garden with the baby and keep my distance!

Smeghead90 Sat 04-Apr-20 20:00:27

I decided long ago that I wanted oh to leave but it will damage the kids as we’ve split twice before in the past. I can’t do it to them again, so I’m sacrificing my happiness for them at least until they’re old enough to understand

izzywizzygood Sat 04-Apr-20 20:06:58

Oh no, hope you can make it work. My relationship is the opposite, it's got better than ever during this Coronavirus time. It's a time to feel like we have newly met again. Hope you can get through this period and the clouds part. There is a rainbow waiting, trust me!

Lonelyjoanie Sat 04-Apr-20 20:09:12

playing social distancing within the home! What do you think he is thinking? I think dh and are both thinking the sane tbh.

smeg I was like that a couple of years ago but the kids can sense something now, we’ve not had a cross word in front of them. But I’m subdued and he is like a silent shadow round the house, saying he is ill so they will leave him alone.

I don’t want my kids growing up like this. It’s claustrophobic

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Aleena1968 Sat 04-Apr-20 20:10:24

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Bobbybobbins Sat 04-Apr-20 20:12:53

I definitely think this lockdown will be make or break for a lot of relationships.

Alarae Sat 04-Apr-20 20:16:26

We brought our newborn home the week the lockdown was put in place, after a stressful two weeks travelling back and forth to NICU.

I am honestly at breaking point and would love nothing more than to runaway from everything right now (but that's not essential travel, even though it is for me...)

Healthyandhappy Sat 04-Apr-20 20:20:01

Tbh my husband has ocd stopped taking fluoxetine phone and drinks 2 much gp said fatty liver other day but he can carry on as he ishmm
Push came to shove last weekend (sunday) when he said I had to save dinner for kids next day when we only did enough for that sunday dinner (stew) then he told me I wasnt allowed relish and put in liver room til I said something then I would put top on it right etc. Never allowed in kitchen without him watching. I said I'm done not slept in same bed all week. Hes in kitchen at mo im in bath. Hes still working in a lab and im a nurse working from home and homeschooling a 5 ye old and 10 year old. Well pissed of and stressed out

Lonelyjoanie Sat 04-Apr-20 20:21:14

Alarea hope your ok. I felt like an alien after all of mine add this pressure and I bet it’s horrible flowers

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Healthyandhappy Sat 04-Apr-20 20:22:21

@Aleena1968 that be fine however with my husband and he has OCD its dress up in fancy dress drink my wine and do the deed not b4 2am acc bang on 2am and yes we do this every week except last week when was on period. Sod him 2night.

CollaborativeBee Sat 04-Apr-20 20:24:10

I was in an abusive relationship, I left it 13 years ago. As stressful as all of this has been, I regularly find myself thinking thank goodness that didn't happen when I was with him.

Sugartitss Sat 04-Apr-20 20:31:30

smeg why be the martyr?

your kids won’t ever thank you, you’ll do far more damage if you stay in a miserable marriage

Lonelyjoanie Sat 04-Apr-20 20:38:04

healthyandhappy shit. That would send me over the edge flowers

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Smeghead90 Sat 04-Apr-20 21:27:25

@Sugartitss I’m trying to do the best for my kids, they’ve been through 2 break ups already I can’t put them through another one I just can’t. Their dad would put things into their head that it was mummy’s fault we’ve split up. My daughter is literally my shadow at the minute so to only see her half of the week would kill us both

Lonelyjoanie Sat 04-Apr-20 22:08:17

smeg sad

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