Right Mumsnetters - I need some help.
I have a very dear friend who I hope will come onto mumsnet because she needs some advice right now - I am going to post a little of what she is going through and the questions she has in the hope that if she doesn't come on here I can advise her to some extent. I hope she doesn't mind.
Right anyway - her husband has told her he no longer wants to be with her, she has changed since they had DC and he is unfulfilled - in life generally not just in his relationship - no reason really to finish the relationship and I think he may be having a breakdown, if not there is another woman involved!
He has left the marital home but says he will continue to pay the mortgage and car payments etc... - does this mean that he can come and go as he pleases - I have told her to make him give her back the house keys.
He is saying that as she works 3 days a week and can have DC on the other 2 working days he wants DC all weekend, every weekend. DC is at playschool one morning during the time she is supposed to have DC and will in all probability have to go back to work full time so this is not going to work - when this was mentioned to him he got very angry!! I did tell her usually it is every other weekend and half the holidays as that is what happens with my DC.
What happens in terms of Tax Credit - can she claim some being the only person living at that address now with DC - even if he still pays the mortgage etc? Things are going to be tight for her and she could probably do with everything she can get.
All replies glady received - as I now live a way from her I feel like I cannot do much and at least if I had some concrete information I could give her I would feel like I would be doing something.
Many thanks - don't want to expand too much - I would rather she wrote on here for emotional support - all I can give her from here really is hard facts as to what her rights are.
Twinkie
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Need some help for a dear friend re marriage breakdown!
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Twinkie1 · 10/09/2007 12:58
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